Well, after three years of stellar health, my friend's cat has taken an abrupt downhill turn. For the past two days he's been lethargic, not eating or drinking, having trouble even walking. His gums are pale, and he's hardly grooming. It looks like it's probably anemia, caused by the FeLV.
The thing is, my friend is being really cavalier about it. She's just assuming he's dying from the FeLV, and that's that. She doesn't want to take him to the vet since he gets so stressed out about it. "It's better to let him die at home in peace."
But suppose it isn't the FeLV? What if it's something else entirely, and curable, and she's just leaving him to die from it? If it was your cat, wouldn't you need to know what was wrong before you let him die???
Yes, he gets really really stressed out at the vet, like peeing-himself stressed. But right now, he's only half-conscious. If there was ever a better time to take him to the vet, I don't know when it would be.
I could even understand (though not agree with) her position, except for something she said just a couple of weeks ago. She and her husband went out of town, and my husband and I took over feeding the cat, as we usually do. She gave the vet's phone number to my husband before she left, and made an offhand remark about "if he gets really sick and you have to have him put down."
My husband said, umm, what? and she said, "Well you know, I don't want to have to spend hundreds of dollars on him if he gets sick." Meanwhile, they left a vet bill for their dogs sitting out on their kitchen counter. It was for over $400 dollars, for routine care.
So tonight I gave them a heartfelt, hopefully guilt-inducing lecture about not just letting him die, but it just made them defensive. I'm afraid that poor kitty is doomed.
It's probably the FeLV, it's probably his time, but jeez. I like my friends a lot
less right now.
I'm sorry this is so long, I just really needed to vent.