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post #1 of 11 (permalink) Old 06-01-2010, 12:49 AM Thread Starter
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I got divorced about 2 years ago. I don't keep in touch with the ex, or his family (not that I don't like them, just figure they're all mad at me for ditching him). He took his cat, a tortoise-shell named Xanthe, and I kept my cat Paizly.
Since then, I have adopted Nebula, and therefore reaching my (legal) limit on cats. Even if it wasn't for the law, my dad (who I live with) doesn't really want more indoors anyway. Says if I rescue/keep any more, they gotta stay outside... and I don't really believe in outdoor cats, so stay satisfied with only 2.

A couple weeks ago, at dusk, a dark cat was meowing at the back door and butting against it to get inside. I was shocked at how Nebula had gotten out, as I'm usually very careful to not let her slip between my feet. I opened the door to let the cat in, and once inside with the light, realized it was a tortie!
I called the director of the rescue organization I volunteer for, to see if I could bring her in to have her scanned for an ID chip. Meanwhile, I put an ad on the local internet classifieds about having found a tortie and to call to identify with a description of exact markings (I didn't want somebody just randomly claiming to own her!).

This cat had come inside, wandered around and sniffed for a bit, but didn't seem at all afraid. So I figured she was somebody's lost pet. Completely ignoring Paizly (and Paizly ignored her, which is astonishing - Paizly is afraid of EVERYTHING!), but hissed and growled a little at Nebula. At least there were no real fights, so I figured she could stay the night inside.

The next day, as I was taking her to the shelter to be chip scanned, I noticed my ex's van in the driveway of his parent's house. He always liked torties, and I wondered if maybe he was back in town and his cat was wandering the neighborhood. Well, I was sort of right. It was the cat he took with him at the time of the divorce - but he's in North Dakota (I'm in Utah) to train to work in the oil fields. So I drop off Xanthe at his parents, who say they're taking care of her until my ex gets settled into a place and can take care of the cat better.

The next night, she's back. So I let her in - hadn't yet cleaned up the extra litter box and food/water dishes I had set out for her, which I guess was a good thing. While in bed, I got to thinking how many times she would try to come "home"... so the next day, I went to my ex's parents without her, and told the dad she's back again. We agreed that I should take care of her, rather than risking her getting hit by a car trying to cross the road all the time to get "home" (ex in-laws live across the street and down a couple houses from my house).

So... for now I have 3 cats, and hopefully the law will make allowances for the "baby-sitting" issue! I do let her out when she meows at the door to go chase the squirrels (which my dad wants the feral cats to get anyway). And then she either comes in when I'm going through the doorway, or the big softie that I am will let her back in at night... there's some awfully big raccoons out there!

Xanthe and Nebula sort of avoid each other for the most part. Good because they're not fighting, and bad because poor Nebula keeps trying to get Paizly to play with her... I kinda hoped Nebbie had finally gotten a play-mate! Oh well, it's only been a week...maybe later...
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post #2 of 11 (permalink) Old 06-08-2010, 10:23 PM
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Re: Joint custody

That is so darling - of course, you don't "own" 3 cats - you have 2 cats and 1 guest
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post #3 of 11 (permalink) Old 06-13-2010, 03:09 PM
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I'm just curious why are you only allowed two cats? You might have stated it somewhere and I just missed it...
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post #4 of 11 (permalink) Old 07-01-2010, 07:38 PM Thread Starter
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Sorry, Sharpie! I just noticed this reply from you.

The law in my city is 2 dogs/cats. 1 cat and 1 dog, or 2 dogs or 2 cats. TWO...period.
I guess they did that, to keep people from being overwhelmed or prevent hoarders... not that it works, though!

It's also illegal to feed the ferals, but I do it anyway.
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post #5 of 11 (permalink) Old 07-01-2010, 07:54 PM
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I think it's sweet she wanted to come home to momma!!!

I used to live in Omaha, and a suburb of Omaha (Papillion) also has a 2 pet rule, with no option for a cattery or kennel license. I wonder how many people live in towns with that rule and never even know it? I knew 1 family that showed Golden Retrievers in Obedience and another woman who showed and bred purebred cats in that town. The woman had no idea about the law til she got caught. The family I think knew because they never wanted people to know where they lived.
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post #6 of 11 (permalink) Old 07-01-2010, 08:24 PM Thread Starter
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Yeah... most people either don't know, or don't care. I'm careful, because it IS enforced around here. One of my sister's friends got a cat taken away to the pound, when a random neighborhood inspection noticed 3 cats in her yard.

The only reason I know, is because I've always wanted a skunk. But they're illegal as pets in Utah. I suppose I could sneak one into my house, but then I wouldn't be able to take it to the vet if anything happened to it.
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post #7 of 11 (permalink) Old 02-26-2011, 05:25 AM
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omg, what a horrible law! They should allow at least 5 cats.

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post #8 of 11 (permalink) Old 02-26-2011, 06:35 AM
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I really can't believe those crackpot laws. Who comes up with these things? Hope it doesn't turn out to be a problem for you.
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post #9 of 11 (permalink) Old 02-26-2011, 09:21 AM
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It's lovely that Xanthe found her way to you. But, I agree, you only have two cats...guests don't count!
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post #10 of 11 (permalink) Old 03-10-2011, 11:04 AM
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I'm so glad my city doesn't have stupid laws like that... and I think it's really cute the Xante came back to you
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