Ok strange question, But do we put ourselves out too much for the sake of our cats comfort?
The reason I ask is I just purchased a La-Z-Boy electric recliner for £600 (around $1000 USD) and as soon as Gizmo saw it he gave me his "no stupid human - tis mine now" look and promptly jumped in and curled up.
I didn't have the heart to turf him out (while he recovering) but it just got me to wondering about all of the times I have sacrificed my own comfort for his benefit.
I've lost count of the amount of times I have gone to bed only to find him stretched out right across the middle and I have had to slide my self in down the side of him so as not to disturb him.
TBH I feel like if you have an animal that's ill or hurt it's fair to be more gentle with them and give them a bit of extra special things. For example, when Jitzu feels really really crappy she gets things like lightly cooked salmon for dinner. *shrugs* She also gets her favorite spot of the couch (read: my spot).
When my pets are perfectly healthy I have set boundaries, if I want to sit in my spot they have to move...but they can come sit on me instead. That being said, if I'm just going to sit for a second I'll sit in another spot rather than disturb sleeping kitties.
Should I be asserting my dominance more (serious question), Is it just me being to soft or is it a common issue for other cat owners also?
Dominance in cats (and most animals) doesn't work ANYTHING like what we think it does. If you'd like do an internet search for 'dominance myth' and you'll find a wealth of articles by many many people (many of whom are certified behaviorists (PhD), or vets, behavioral vets, ect) who have actually done research into how hierarchies work in different species.
Bottom line? You aren't a cat, and your cat knows that. Don't try to pretend you're a cat.
IMO it's VERY hard to be 'too soft'. Unless your cat is literally making you bleed on a regular basis (without you provoking them either on purpose or by accident) it's not even a problem.
So, in short, my answer is: You're doing just fine. Continue happily pampering your kitty...but move him if you really want the new seat