yea, choices have consequences.
I think it's cruel and heartless to "insult" or "put down" or "lecture" someone who is grieving their loss! No matter how that loss happened, it is a loss, there is grief and if you feel you don't have sympathy, then you need to shut up. Your opinion doesn't NEED to be blurted out at every opportunity.
To me and many others that don't hang out on this site, keeping a cat bottled up indoors, only allowed to peer out the windows and wish they could have some fresh air is downright cruel.
Yes there are cats that are quite happy to stay inside, I own one but she'll still sit out on the patio every now and then for some fresh air.
Cats need to be outside once in a while at the very least. This is why cats end up with "behavioral" issues.
The cat will start peeing outside the litter box, for no known reason. Or a cat will start marking territory or the cat might start tearing things up, get grumpy with the other cats, not want to eat, etc. Oh, there is Feliway and drugs the vet can supply to maybe help, but drugs have very real dangers and side effects! I hear people on here preach about every calorie they put in their cat's mouth and it has to be this and that for optimum health, but will think nothing of giving heavy duty antidepressants to a cat??! Seriously? The mind boggles.
I don't say anything 99% of the time (I use to but just quit). I realized that if I had nothing nice to say, meaning sympathetic to the poster, then my opinion and or lecture just wasn't needed, and all would be better off if I just shut up and move on and let others, that do empathise, reply.
I love the people here that are tough as nails, no bending, no sympathy, they know it all and feel everyone should know and have foreseen. Life is going to serve a big helping of humility one day, and I surely hope they aren't faced with such cold and callus responses. It isn't nice at all.
There is a place and a time for everything. Grieving is not the time for callus remarks, lectures, "I told ya so's" and insults. It IS a time to be mature and either be sympathetic and try to ease the posters pain OR shut it up and move on to another topic.
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