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post #1 of 7 (permalink) Old 04-13-2008, 12:42 AM Thread Starter
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Could use some warm thoughts and prayers

Sorry guys but I am really down tonight and looking for a place to let out my feelings. As some of you know, I lost my first baby in September. I already knew April would be a hard month for me because that's when the baby would have been due, plus I haven't been able to get pregnant again which is upsetting to me.

My husband's sister called tonight to tell us that she is 5 months pregnant. She just found out a month ago and it's with her boyfriend who she is not really that serious about. I feel kind of selfish for even thinking of my own feelings, as I know life is not easy for her. She was just starting to try and get her life together and go to school and definitely was not planning this. But I am just so jealous that she is pregnant and I am not. She gets to have what I want so desperately.

I have to pull myself together somehow and be supportive for her sake because I know very few people will (my husband's family is very upset about it). I'm just not sure how I can do that when it broke my heart just to hear her talk about her baby.

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post #2 of 7 (permalink) Old 04-13-2008, 12:49 AM
 
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I am so, so sorry that you have to go through this. I can't even imagine how difficult it is for you. Although I have never lost a child, through work I've have been around it enough to see how devastating it can be on a family, especially the mother. It is especially frustrating and disappointing when you can't get pregnant and those around you can (That I have experienced, my younger sister got pregnant last spring with a guy that she'd known for 2 weeks. I was devastated and jealous) ::Hugs::
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I'm so sorry, Shannon

While I haven't lost a baby myself, I was pregnant along with a friend, and our due sates were about a month apart. She then lost her baby at 35 weeks It was horrible -- it wasn't the first baby she'd lost, and all our friends were pregnant. I don't know how she got through it. I know she found alot of comfort through a support group of women who'd lost babies. Perhaps that would be helpful to you as well.

It's wonderful that you want to be there for your SIL despite the pain it's causing you. You are a good person to care about her

Sending lots of hugs your way.

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I'm so sorry you have to go through this. Sometimes being strong is very hard, and I send you lots of good thoughts and hugs!
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I'm so very sorry Shannon. *Hugs* We're all here for you...You know that!

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Shannon, you are an angel to support your SIL. I pray that you will be blessed with a healthy baby also. God bless.




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I understand how you are feeling. I lost a pregnancy at 19 weeks and several of my friends were pregnant at the same time. I had such a hard time as their pregnancies progressed.

I had 2 other pregnancies that didn't make it past 10 weeks within the next year and a half. It just didn't seem fair. I would watch women come into the OB dept and have babies that they couldn't afford, didn't want, etc.

You just have to learn to get through each moment. As time passes it does get better, I promise. It just seems like it won't right now.

I am sending hugs to you, and wish you peace. If I can be of help to you, feel free to PM me.


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