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post #1 of 12 (permalink) Old 03-03-2009, 11:52 AM Thread Starter
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The father of one of my closest friends is dying from cancer. He has a few days at best .. indeed he may not last today.

I want to show support for my friend who is obviously rather distressed. He has been sending occasional updates by text message and I've sent messages back such as 'I'm sorry, this must be awful for you' and 'call me anytime you need a chat' ... hopefully I'm doing the right thing. I know what its like to lose your Dad to cancer but its still difficult to know quite what to do.

Could I just ask people if they could send my friend and his family prayers or good wishes etc? Thanks.

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Many prayers for that entire family. I am sure that you are helping your friend a lot just by being there for him.


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My prayers going out to your friend, too.
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He's in my prayers.




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*sending thoughts/prayers*

Making yourself available to him is the right thing for him right now. You could also send him a card to let him know you care and are thinking about him. Many people shy away from tragedy because they don't know what to do. Well, the person going through the tragedy doesn't know what they are thinking/doing, so any outside support is usually welcomed for the bit of distraction or stability it provides and the availability of a shoulder to cry on.
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It's hard to know what to do. But keep texting, even after his Dad passes. I know from personal experience that every little note, every little message means so much, because so many people do tend to stay away, not knowing how to respond.

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Re: Concerned for a friend

Thanks for your good thoughts and prayers.

His Dad is still here but for how much longer I dont know. Currently participating in a text swapping conversation sharing a joke ... at least he is still smiling.

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Ahh that's really crap... Hope he finds the strength to get through this, and I hope his dad goes in peace and dignity.
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It must be difficult to know what to do. Sending positive thoughts.
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Sending my thoughts and prayers also, Allie. How aweful!
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