Okay, I'll start off by saying that the immediate family I grew up with (mom, dad and brother) is very dysfunctional to say the least. Mom and dad have been divorced for about 10 years now and my brother only talks to any of us when he needs something.
Mom sold her car about a week ago to a young college-age girl whose parents go to the same church. What mom didn't realize is that she should have kept the license plates from the car before handing over the keys. It's been 5 days and this girl still hasn't gone to the DMV and transferred the title and still has mom's plates, basically meaning that if something were to happen to that car the DMV thinks she still owns it.
Mom asked me what to do about it and I really didn't know; never had a situation like that before. Then she tried calling my dad (they're still "sort of" on speaking terms
) and also tried calling my brother, neither of whom answered. Both of them are famous for looking at their caller ID and won't answer if they don't feel like talking to the person. So mom calls me back and askes me to try dad's number to see if he'll answer for me. I tried his house, his work # and his cell and got nothing. About 20 minutes later he calls and says "did you want something?" and I told him mom has been trying to get a hold of him. Also, about an hour later my brother called my mom and in a bad tone asks what she wants and says, "you know, it is late." Whatever! He doesn't know what late is. It's just one of his excuses because he didn't want to talk to her. Mom told him "why don't you think about that the next time you want me to bail you out of jail at 3 o'clock in the morning."
So then mom comes over here on her lunch break today and completely blows up at me. I I'm the one who takes everything because I'm the only one who will try and stay on decent terms with everyone without ruffling feathers. Now she's PO'd at dad and my brother over this situation and says "I don't even want to come over for Easter if they're going to be here." Previous to this, they've always gotten along well enough at holidays for my sake and my kids' sake. Well, if I don't have my dad over here (whom my kids absolutely worship - what kid doesn't swoon over Grandpa?) then my kids won't understand and they'll be hurt. Furthermore, my screwed up relatives are the only ones my kids have. Hubby is an only child, his mom passed away last year, and all of his next-generation relatives don't even bother to talk to him hardly at all. I have tons of cousins on my side of the family but they all have families of their own now and will be spending the holiday with their parents/children.
This is so messed up! How do I make this a decent holiday for my family, trying to include everyone for the sake of the kids, without there being a 3-ring circus?
Oh, another thing, too - there is this young gal at our church whose husband is going to be away over Easter and I would like to invite her over for a meal with us but I don't want her to have to be witness to this bunch I have to call family.
I got upset with my mom for putting me in the middle of the situation again and told her I didn't know if I wanted to do anything for the holidays and maybe we would just go to one of the many restaurant buffets, which I honestly don't want to do for 2 reasons - buffet food isn't always the best and my two 4-year-old kids would probably have a fit having to wait as long as we would in line for one of these places.
Any advise, please start chatting away. Thanks!