Re: motorcycle accident
I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your friend. I don't have much advice, because everyone handles things differently. My husband lost his older (by 11mo) brother about 12 years ago, and that hit him very hard. They were very close, even though they lived on opposite sides of the country. We now have a great relationship with his nephew (the only child of that brother) and I know that has helped my husband immensely. My husband also lost his mother about a year and a half ago, and though it was difficult, he got through that much easier because her health had been poor for quite some time, and he knew the end was coming and I guess he'd talked with her and made his peace about it.
With my husband, I expressed my sorrow/sympathy, but I just left it up to him to talk about it, or not. Though he did (and still does) talk about it, the pain has lessened with time and he is able to remember more and more things that make him smile when he talks about them, and not get so sad.
Best of luck,