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post #1 of 13 (permalink) Old 09-12-2012, 02:01 PM Thread Starter
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Alcoholic drama

Oh dear. I just got a call from a friend (she is 59 years old, I am 31). She didn't know where she was at first, but then she figured it out. I am getting ready to go pick her up. Her dad is 90 and she takes care of him, but he is abusive (even at that age) and it drives her to drink waaaay too much. She apparently wandered the city all night drunk.

The rest of her family has disowned her. She lost her nursing career over it and everything else for that matter and I feel so horrible for her... I think I should let her stay over for a few days. I already took her in to the hospital last week for ODing on her dad's Vicodin and she is supposed to be in treatment this week. I will make sure she gets there tomorrow... Sigh... drugs destroy so many lives and society has no compassion. I hope I my helping actually helps.

Thanks for listening... just had to get that off my chest.
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post #2 of 13 (permalink) Old 09-12-2012, 02:18 PM
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Do what's right to help your friend, but always keep in mind your own safety and wellbeing as well.

It can be very hard when someone you know is going through a tough time. Not everyone reacts well when put in a bad situation.

I wish you the best of luck. Hopefully, your friend will remember your kindness if you ever end up in need
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She's spending her food stamp money on us at the store... LOL I guess that is cool since I lost my job and all. I ended up sending my fiance out to get her. He knows the area better than I and she is prone to wandering right now... she already called here instead of the cell by mistake to tell us that she isn't where she said she was... still waiting on them to get back...
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Hmm she's a saint for still taking care of her dad when he's abusive, but the drinking is bad... if I were her I think I'd just toss him out Maybe I'm a mean person but I feel like someone who abuses you is not worth ruining your life. The poor woman... I hope she and your fiance get back soon so you can breathe more easily.
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bless you for helping your friend.not many ppl hang in ther.she needs your support but also tough love.i know she is having a hard time with her dad but no exuse for drinking.or oding.she needs your love and support and also some professional help if she is that bad with drinking.give her a positive attitude and open arms.and maybe give her advise on how to get her dad in a nursing home or something.
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Hmm she's a saint for still taking care of her dad when he's abusive, but the drinking is bad... if I were her I think I'd just toss him out Maybe I'm a mean person but I feel like someone who abuses you is not worth ruining your life. The poor woman... I hope she and your fiance get back soon so you can breathe more easily.
not mean just the truth.no one deserves any kind of abuse.
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Well, she's here... still drunk. She must have drank a lot. I don't know why she won't put her dad in a nursing home. I'll talk to her and find out.
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It is important for her to get back to the treatment facility as soon as possible. She will not get better on her own at this point and she runs the risk of hurting herself in a lasting way.


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She is better now. She says her dad refuses to go to a home. He is really mostly self-sufficient, he is just unsteady on his feet. He just needs people to mow the grass and take out the trash and stuff, so she could get away with just checking on him once a week or so. I am trying to convince her to stay with me or go to a halfway house.

I am taking her to the treatment facility tomorrow. She is enrolled in the IOP-Intensive Outpatient-- program (and I know the people there and they will let me stay and visit, plus I'll get free lunch and breakfast!). They should have kept her for a week or more for detox last Thursday, but they released her on Saturday! Grr... they said they didn't have enough beds. Whatever. At least she is safe now.
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What a sad situation for everyone involved.
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