I'm in Anne Arundel County, Maryland, about 10 miles from Annapolis. Welcome to Maryland, as another person who moved here from the Midwest (as a kid).
I love, and I mean LOVE, Frederick. Even though it's over an hour drive, my husband and I go up there at least every 6 weeks or so to shop and hit the historic downtown (more specifically, a restaurant called Firestone's). Frederick has so incredibly much to offer -- lots of shopping, restaurants, surrounding mountains, the Appalachian Trail, beautiful countryside, historic inns, a minor league baseball team, you name it. I'd definitely live there if I could, but my commute wouldn't allow it.
P.S. Not only Wegman's, but Boscov's. Check it out.
Holly and Murphy