Originally Posted by lymekaps
First, tell her how much you've missed her and how happy you are that the two of you are in contact again. Let her know that even though things became complicated between her parents, all of you love her and never stopped thinking of her.
I'm sure you know this, Jade, but I'll say it anyway -- it's important that you don't mention that her mom lied about the family not wanting to see her. She will most likely defend her mom and the conversation will deteriorate.
Then give her a chance to talk a bit and see where's she's at. You have alot of fond memories to share and a chance to find out what she's like now. Now that she's older, I'll bet you'll have even more in common as far as music and other interests. There will be plenty to talk about.
Good luck and keep us posted!!
Some new developments:
Briana is living with her grandmother on her own action. She felt her mother wasn't being truthful with her in regards to the family (esp. her father). She told her mother she wanted to talk to her father, she refused, but Briana kept demanding. Finally her mother just said, "Whatever" and that is why we are here now.
Briana told my brother and my mom what her mother said. She also said that she didn't believe her and that her stepfather is a jerk. Man, she's so much like me it's not funny.
I talked to her briefly today. She said she's doing well in school, she wants to go to college and be a criminal investigator and work in forensics. She also says she's 5'3.5" (yeah, we'll see about taht half inch) which makes her a bit taller than I am.
I asked my mom if she still looked like me and her response was, "Ooooh yeah! Spitting image."
I guess I'm just really proud at how adult she is. I mean, most people would feel sad that the circumstances in her life made her grow up so fast, but in reality she's always thought and acted more like a little adult than a child. I was the same way. When I was 13 I pulled myself out of a severe depression without counseling or outside help. Just me.
I'm hoping that my brother will go and visit her this Sunday, so I can try and go with him. My mom, her father and my dad's mother went to see her today. I'm sure my mom is sooo happy.
I guess my family is still in a bit of schock. After losing Jennifer only to have Briana come back into our lives not long after...it's amazing.
For those who believe in God and his work, I can honestly say I feel he is present in every aspect of my family's life.