Moderators: If anything about this is improper, please delete the thread! I was hesitant to address the subject but was hopeful we could have an informative discussion and learn from one another.
Note to the guys: unless you have something which you can respectfully add in regards to your personal views or experiences of women in your life, this thread isn't for you. No smart remarks, guys, please...be nice! This is a very sensitive subject for some of us.
My situation: I am the mother of two teen daughters, but this isn't about them. My "two ladies" (aka breasts) have been stretched out of shape and gone south...caused by yo-yo dieting in my teens and twenties; nursing my babies (my size was much larger prior to pregnancy, but after I stopped nursing, the size changed significantly); and (of course) lack of skin elasticity related to middle age and my increasing awareness of gravity.
I feel very insecure about the shape, size (not to mention one is about 1/2 cup smaller than the other) and location, but am also aware that I am at a higher risk for complications during surgery than average, due to having fms/cfs and possibly a yet-to-be-diagnosed illness (I am still being tested for MS, Lupus, Lyme's and a host of other 'fun stuff', but I doubt that any of these will be found). I would love to have a slight increase in size (from an "almost B" to a full C) but that isnt' my main concern. I would just like to see them back to where they should be, and symmetrical so a lift would probably be enough for me. This feels more like correcting a defect rather than making a change for vanity reasons.
There are other procedures I would like to have to fine-tune some other areas, but it would purely be vanity procedures. However, the first issue I addressed has seriously damaged my esteem...especially since I have two teen daughters who are very developed, my now 14 y.o. was larger than I am now by the time she was ten years old *wipes at tear of self pity*
I would love feedback from those who have had or have considered having cosmetic surgery, especially a breast lift or breast enhancement. Trust me, I have tried every exercise, bra, "snake oil" treatment...you name it...but the truth is that I am a typical middle-aged mom (less endowed than most, but still -) who didn't experience the exception when it came to my *sniffle* aging body.
btw, on a positive note...this is probably one of the best ages to be: I'm soon to be 39; my kids are nearly grown, I have a great hubby who loves me no matter what gravity does to certain parts of me (
) and I have the freedom to pursue my dreams: whenever I figure out what they are, that is.
I am lucky enough to not *have* to work, which is a blessing for me in multiple ways. We have managed to plan ahead very well and my hubby is probably going to retire between 50-55 years of age, so we will have plenty of time to travel and enjoy our lives together.