I used to nanny for a little girl w/CP and she was in a mainstream school, her para with her at times. Hayley often prefered being treated normally, and even if she couldn't participate she participated vicariously through the other kids. We did alot of reading out of books, making up stories, and playing with dolls (she couldn't grip a pencil it had to be larger). Shaving cream is another fun thing (styrofoam cups clean it up fast), play doh. As for her wrists and ankles, she wore special braces that were alternated day and night. So sometimes she had more mobility. It's hard, good luck!