We went through something similar but I don't blame my family. I helped take care of my Grandmother for about a year while I was there. I did physical therapy with her, took her potty, she stayed at my house every weekend to give mom a brake, etc. Noone likes her in the family because she is so mean and stuck up. Just a mean old woman. She lost her mind and is still quite mean but not as bad. For some reason, the seizures improved her somewhat. NOONE has EVER visited her OR called her up from the family. My wealthy aunt sends her money on the stipulation she doesn't have to talk to her. My grandmother decided she didn't have the time for a child and sent her to live elsewhere to grow up but still expected her to love my grandmother. My grandmother had many BF's and traveled etc. She also was married about 17 times to many different men but sometimes remarrying the same man more than once. She remarried again after my grandfather and her were devorced but after my grandfather died, she decided she was a widow and collected his Social Security. She's now in a nursing home alone and I dred her call, I'm on speed dial. My mother visits almost every day. My grandmother is perturbed at her because she put her in the home, but as I see it she didn't have a choice. My grandmother would wake up at 3 am and want to get up for the day, etc. Mom is diabetic and stress raises her blood sugar and she was becomming ill. She lost all the home care and paid about $1500 out of pocket for meds and adult diapers, she just couldn't do it. But I do see your point. It upsets mom something awful that noone visits my grandmother but her and I'm sure I will be forced to visit when I get back in town.