Reprot - it was a complete nightmare. I can't even describe the feeling. We are all still numb I think. I mean, we went from imagining the worst to her being fine but angry. It just completely blows my mind. I hope she thinks about this, but I don't think she realizes how scary it was!
Dusty - The car is my old car, and when I bought my new one, I gave it to her to finish paying it off. It is in my dad's name though, because when I bought it, I was only 16. She has to pay all of her bills (cell phone, and car) and my parents make her pay 100.00 a month for living expenses. She works full time at a nursing home, but the bills take up her entire check.
My parents are also very open and understanding about relationships that the two of us (the girls) have. If she wants to stay the night with a guy, she can - since she is, technically, an adult. As long as she lets my mom know who she is with. The thing is, my parents thought that this guy was a good Christian boy and wouldn't pull something like this. Its not the fact that she stayed there, its the fact that she LIED about it. She lies entirely too much, even about things that aren't worth lying about (one of the reasons my parents pulled her out of college).
She wasn't mature enough to go to school yet, I think she attended 3 classes for the entire first semester of college. When my parents found out that she wasn't going, and that she was staying out all night, every night partying, they brought her home. There is no sense in wasting money if she wasn't going to be responsible enough to do what she was supposed to be doing. They made her get a full time job, which cut down on her running around. She was over 600.00 overdrawn in the bank when they brought her home, so she had to pay her way out of debt. They have just now started letting her go back to the campus to see her friends, thinking that 6 months later she might be a little more responsible for her actions. Last night she proved that she is anything but ready for adulthood.
I am totally sick. I am going home for the weekend, and it is going to be really hard seeing her. I love her, but sometimes she hurts the ones that love her too much... I am going to try to talk to her this weekend, but every time I try, she gets mad at me. Its almost like she resents me for trying to give her advice. I always thought that she could relate better to me because we are so close in age (I'm 22). But once I moved out, she completely changed. She was such a sweet little girl and we had so much fun growing up. She always had something nice to say to me and she looked up to me. Now it has completely changed. She confides in strangers more than she does in me, and it hurts. I am her best ally, and she doesn't even realize it.
Thanks for listening!