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post #1 of 23 (permalink) Old 01-09-2015, 01:07 PM Thread Starter
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in mourning, needing community

greetings. i am a staunch lover of cats, and have had feline companions for every one of my 43 years. i can't imagine life without them.

last night, our cat spider-man died of some type of poisoning. she was five years old, and our other three cats are her mother, sister and brother. it was all so sudden, it still hasn't really sunk in yet. we have had cats who suffered from poisoning and kidney failure before, and have been able to nurse them thru, thanks to subcutaneous fluids, probiotics, etc, but poor spider-man went so fast, it was staggering.

so, i am feeling an ever growing tide of grief and i felt, as an active internet forumer (mostly horror movie forums) that i needed to seek out a feline community, for support, for knowledge, for understanding. i'm sure most of us here have lost our furry friends, or come close, and understand how precious their lives are, and how meaningful a part of our families they are. i guess i felt like i needed to connect with other folks of like mind and experience, both as a means of processing my grief, but also as a way of honoring spider-man. she was a good kitty, sweet, playful, and ever hungry. we will miss her.

thanks for reading. i look forward to acclimating to this community, learning more about cats, sharing what i have to offer, and remembering my dear, sweet friend.
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post #2 of 23 (permalink) Old 01-14-2015, 04:47 AM
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Welcome and so sorry about your loss... I lost my Prince suddenly last year, he was my all in life, I know how much it hurts...

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I am so sorry for your loss.. I lost my boy Feadan suddenly without warning in Sept.. It does indeed hurt.. Still miss him..
So feel free to talk about him here.
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Sorry to hear about the loss of your cat. I have one at the vet right now who is not doing so good, and may not make it much longer. It is so hard when our little best friends leave us, probably one of the worst things we ever go through. I hope your heart is able to heel soon. If you have other cats, they seem to help you with that, you sort of grieve together.
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I'm so sorry for your loss! I can't even think about losing my kitties beyond the fact that it will, of course, happen someday without experiencing a heavy feeling in my chest.

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Sorry for your loss. I recently lost 3 of my own cats within a month or so of each other. People here are very helpful in the grieving process.

I hope when you are ready that you feel you can post about her and tell us what she was like.
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So sorry for you - several weeks ago I lost one suddenly - my oldest, who had a benign tumour but no other health problems, died and we were bereft - as were her "babies" - she was the universal mother. It is a horrible shock. I wish I could offer even more sympathy. Bless you and your baby!
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post #8 of 23 (permalink) Old 01-14-2015, 03:41 PM
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I am so sorry for you loss. Yes, a part of our soul goes with them when they depart this earthly life. So many of us here know what kind of pain you are in.
Please feel free to share stories and pictures. This is a warm and welcoming community of compassionate people who deeply care.
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post #9 of 23 (permalink) Old 01-14-2015, 07:58 PM
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I am so sorry about Spider-man. Too many of us have experienced your grief, and some of us very recently. I lost one of my kitties last month, also very suddenly and unexpectedly. The shock outweighs the grief at first, and then the grief takes over. It might be comforting to share your memories and pictures of her if and when you feel up to it. And I hope that you'll also find the support you will have here tremendously comforting. I know I have.

Sending hugs to you and to your other kitties.
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I'm so sorry...:'(
They leave an empty spot in our hearts when they go...
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