I've posted before, and sadly after 6 months, Andromeda has not calmed down any. I have tried defusers, calming collar, Rescue Remedy and Prozac. I keep their food on either side of the gate, but even if she's eating and sees Cailan she'll pounce at the gate. I try to play interactive games with them, I use the laser pointer and I try to give Cailan and Meda equal pettings to show that Cailan is okay and Meda doesn't need to attack.
Nothing has worked, but I'm open to more suggestions. However, I believe I need to find her a new home. It isn't fair to her, nor to Cailan for her to be behind the baby gates all day (even though she does have two large rooms she can roam in, and I let her out when I'm home). At night she's in the room with me, and Cailan can see me through the gate and wants to snuggle at night, but hasn't been allowed to for 6 months so he cries behind the gate. It's just not fair on either of them.
I have tried letting Meda out and put Cail behind the gate, but I have a drop ceiling, and Cailan has some how learned that he can jump through the ceiling, so he'll do that, and pop out over my fridge. So it doesn't keep my little Houdini!Cat closed off for long.
Andromeda is a VERY affectionate kitty. She loves being petted and is a stitch to watch with the laser pointer. Loves playing with that, toys and loves straws. If there's a straw that she can get to, she plays with it for HOURS. Last night she was playing with a bit of cardboard for a few hours (keeping me up but it was funny to watch)
She needs a home with no other animals. Needs a loving home, someone to give her lots of attention and snuggles and won't mind her sleeping on the bed with them. She is definitely a lap cat. So if anyone knows someone in the CT/NY/NJ/MA/RI area, I would be happy to bring Andromeda to them with a vet recommendation of course.