Join Date: May 2008
Location: St. Albert, AB, Canada
I think you need to sit down and have a serious chat with your hubby. It sounds like he's acting pretty childishly about this and he's not understanding your feelings.
Sit him down and say "I am feeling very stressed out by this. 5 kittens is a lot of work, and it's way more than I agreed to take on. I am feeling overruled, and not respected when you say these things - as though they will happen without effort or financial commitment." Keep your words and tone calm, and non accusatory. But he needs to know how overwhelmed you are. Maybe once he sees that stress, and really understands it, he'll come around?
Short of that...To be honest I'd be tempted to have potential adopters over when he isn't home. Don't send the kittens away without telling him, but have someone lined up that you can 'personally vouch for'. If he doesn't respect you enough to trust your opinion...well, there are bigger issues there than a cat forum, even one as great as this, can handle.