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post #21 of 24 (permalink) Old 11-25-2014, 01:34 PM Thread Starter
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Originally Posted by 10cats2dogs View Post
OMG! He REALLY isn't getting it!
You are right, he REALLY doesn't get it. No matter what I say I will be the bad guy or he will minimize my concern. I even said to him "How are we ever going to go away for more than a weekend now?" and he says "Well we have the automatic feeders and we can get another one. They will end up being outside cats too and can always go out and look for food if we are gone for an extra day"! NOTHING will change his mind.

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post #22 of 24 (permalink) Old 11-25-2014, 01:36 PM Thread Starter
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I have also had indoor/outdoor cats and they bring in dirt, do get injured now and then, and I have to make sure I keep up vaccinations, flea medicine and that really adds up.
Well the thing is, our two adult cats don't get flea treatment unless I buy it. They don't go to the vet on a regular basis because "they are fine" according to him. Yup minimize, minimize, minimize!

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I think you need to sit down and have a serious chat with your hubby. It sounds like he's acting pretty childishly about this and he's not understanding your feelings.

Sit him down and say "I am feeling very stressed out by this. 5 kittens is a lot of work, and it's way more than I agreed to take on. I am feeling overruled, and not respected when you say these things - as though they will happen without effort or financial commitment." Keep your words and tone calm, and non accusatory. But he needs to know how overwhelmed you are. Maybe once he sees that stress, and really understands it, he'll come around?

Short of that...To be honest I'd be tempted to have potential adopters over when he isn't home. Don't send the kittens away without telling him, but have someone lined up that you can 'personally vouch for'. If he doesn't respect you enough to trust your opinion...well, there are bigger issues there than a cat forum, even one as great as this, can handle.
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