Welcome to CatForum, and I think I
you for taking a little feral one into your home.
I foster, tame and socialize for adoption feral, semi-feral, abandoned and poorly socialized cats/kittens for a local rescue. I have a fairly intense program I work the kitties through and I'll send you a link.
First, I think it is very good you are keeping the kitten in a small room with few hiding places. However, one of my rules with fostering cats for taming and socialization is to provide them a 'safe cave', but for me to have access to it whenever I want. I would not like for a cat/kitten to be able to get to an area where I could *not* reach the kitty in an emergency. I use cat carriers with the doors propped open, a towel in the bottom to sleep on and another towel draped over the top of the carrier, leaving a small gap at the bottom doorway for the kitty to go in/out of their 'safe cave'...but any time I *must* get them, I can. Or I can just close the carrier door and have them contained and mobile.
Instead of typing it all out here, I'm going to provide a link to what I jokingly refer to as: Kitty Cat Boot Camp
I first want to stress that the overall KCBC
goal is to show the kitten it can trust us to never harm it and you will need to judge very carefully what speed to move through the steps, finding what is comfortable for you and the kitten. But in my opinion, you cannot get an animal socialized to handling unless you actually handle it. It will be a slow process until you reach the actual physical handling point, but it can be done in a manner that is respectful of the cat, while still making forward progress and helping the cat to accept more and more handling as it becomes socialized.
One thing I do not do, is wait for the cat to come to me. Sometimes, many times
, these feral cats will *not* willingly come to me, so it is up to me to show them they *can* and that it can be a Good Thing. The cat is only obeying its' self-survival-instinct and I work slowly and steadily to show the cat it can trust and accept people into its' life.
I sometimes feel that my work with feral cats is like learning to play a musical instrument: you see the fluidity with which one plays and hear the beautiful musical notes strung together in a pleasing melody, so you commit and practice until you are able to replicate what you first saw/heard.
But how *do* you reach that point?
You learn. You watch, listen, apply the techniques and practice until you and the instrument are smooth, fluid and creating your own song.
THAT is the EXACT same way I work with cats. I read them, I touch them and listen to what their reaction is, I practice touching them often and continue to do so until my handling of them and their reaction to my handling is fluid and no longer jerky. In time, every stroke of the cat is a musical note heard in contented purrs.
Basic facts: You cannot play the piano without touching it. You cannot get a cat accustomed to handling without handling it. ...and that basically sums up my philosophy about socializing cats.
Following in the below link, is a lot of information. Some of it may not apply to you, your kitten and your situation, but the overall goal remains the same: Slow forward progress without frightening the kitten. Try to make every experience a positive one, as negative experiences will hinder the socializing progress.
Please give it a read-through, and if you have any questions, I will be happy to help you.
PS ... My own progress through KCBC is what I would consider 'fast', but I don't have much time to work with these cats before they must go to the adoption center. It is my job to get them handle-able quickly, keep them at that plateau for as long as I can (the time they are with me) so by the time they go to the adoption center, they are relaxed and confident with these new behaviors "set", instead of their fall-back feral behaviors.
This helps make them able to find purrmanent homes. With this kitten being your *own* kitten, you can take your time and move slower through the KCBC ... but fast/slow, my techniques work and provide good results for setting the cat on a course for a happy home-life.
Good luck with your lucky little kitten!
Additional links with helpful information:
Feral Cat Coalition...
Feral Cats of Sonoma County...