Thank you -- all of you -- for your responses! I appreciate any advice, believe me.
I live in Washington State, and my neighbor and I have dealt with many cats and kittens in the neighborhood, but this one is the first I have allowed to get into my heart since I fell in love with a crippled ferral kitten I named Chatuli, then she died within four days of bringing her into my home, breaking my heart. It was a difficult time. She was the sweetest little thing and took to me immediately, but she was very sick. She died at the cat hospital.
I didn't think I could have a cat again. But Moochie stayed in our yard since I put water out for him during a long unseasonably hot period. Since he stayed, I decided he needed more.
Between my neighbor and me, we have taken several cats in for spaying/neutering, then brought them back to the neighborhood. The last one was Chatuli's mother.
Because I have not been able to even touch Moochie, I don't know if "he" is female or male, but "he" looks like a male, so I call him a "he."
Now, I need to be educated.
What is TNR? What is a "tipped ear"? My husband took a couple photos of him, but I haven't put them in the computer yet. He is black and white and has a wide face. He is very pretty.
Thank you for the info on Evening Primrose. i will definitely try that!
Again, thank you!