Need some help...not sure if it's a feral
So how can one tell if a cat is a feral?
My mom started to see it a few weeks back. It has no collar, but appeared friendly albeit cautious. Winter is coming so she felt sorry for it and wanted to feed it. Our property backs onto a park. Two weeks or so ago she saw it strolling in the park. She went out to try and feed it but was unsuccessful. I tried my best to just let it be cuz I was unsure whether it was someone's outdoor cat or a stray. However, it seemed like it was meant to be. Several hrs after her encounter, she told me about it and I sighed. Then got some food and went outside. It was sitting under my car trunk staring straight at me as I opened the door! The car is situated right in front of the door. It seemed fated.
It looked wary, but not overly frightened as instead of running away totally, it ran over to my neighbor's front yard bush and hid, watching me. I was able to feed it eventually and actually lead it back towards my property. It appeared several days in a row around the same time. I was able to get it inside my porch but alas, I wasn't fast enough to close the door. I also wasn't sure what to do with it. I didn't want to keep it and the local no kill cat rescue couldn't take in anymore new rescues.
After a long time deliberating, I decided the most important thing is to trap it and make sure it has a place to stay and food to eat at least for the winter. I'll eventually decided if I want to keep it or not.
I was worried though cuz it disappeared for several days. It was raining and was a bit colder. However, today I was delighted when my mother told me she drove up the driveway and saw it sitting inside the box that I left for it around the porch! I hope it's there when I get back from work!
Now my questions, I'm unsure if it is indeed a stray or someone's outdoor cat. My sis thought it looked on the thin side and it was very food motivated as I was able to coax it easily with food. When it was inside the porch, it looked like it wanted to be friends with everyone. It came right up to the storm door where Miu was watching. She hissed loudly and making disagreeable noises, but it didn't hiss back. It wasn't frightened off either. It just stood its ground and stared back at her in curiosity. It wasn't frightened off by Rocky the dog barking at it throught the window either. Since it has no collar, I suppose the only way to tell is to catch it and have it scanned for a chip. But wouldn't it be embarrassing if it was indeed someone's outdoor cat? There was a posting in the area for a missing cat, but on closer inspection, the markings are slightly different. Also, the phone number on it is wrong.
My parents don't want me to keep it. I also don't want to because it's been a year after I got Miu and we've finally reached a comfortable norm with her and Rocky. I also got her behavior more or less attuned to be acceptable for the family. I'm concerned that with an addition, the balance would be 'upset' and I need to start over again. My dad was saying I'm taking in more than we can handle (since they help with looking after Rocky and Miu) and also my mom's physical/mental health isn't exactly good. On the other hand, I would like to try and keep another cat since Miu is frequently bored. She wants to play with Rocky but they just don't 'speak' the same language and are also at different stages/ages in life. Miu's a pretty good sport. If she asks to play and I tell her I'm too tired/busy, she just walks offs and leaves me alone. I feel terrible and if I can get another cat who's not too much trouble, then she'll have another same species companion.