It takes alot of patience and alot of time!! I sat for months before being able to touch my feral, I let her come to me on her own time, then it was petting with only one finger!!!, that went on for about another month, now I can pet her when I sit with her. I really had to hold myself back from trying to pet her too soon, she let me know when she was ready! She is ine the house now and doing well, still cautious, but doing very good.