Adopted Feral Cat Issues
I am having issues with my cat Jasper and am completely lost as for what to do. He was born feral, his mother dropped him off at my house as a kitten. He was tame from the beginning, and after feeding him and bonding with him, my ex-husband and I brought him inside at 10 months old. He got along with our other three cats and became a lap kitty who loves to cuddle on the couch and in bed. Loves belly rubs.
However, I have been having problems ever since moving to a new house after my divorce. My husband and I split up our four cats, I took him and my other cat Pepper who he used to play with all the time. I moved into a new house in a different neighborhood. He has become a non-stop complainer, constantly begging to be let out on the screened porch (he didn't have one of those before). Non-stop. He will sit at the back door and yowl for 20-30 minutes straight. If I don't feed him as soon as I wake up, or as soon as I walk in the door after work, he follows me around and yowls until I do. Again, it's non-stop. Could go on for an hour.
On top of the constant noise from him, he seems stressed. Not playing as much, not playing with Pepper, and extremely fixated on wanting to be outside. We have a ton of feral and outdoor cats in this neighborhood, and he watches them through the windows and gets upset. If he sees one in the backyard while he's on the porch, he starts the car alarm noises, fluffs up, and tries to attack them. He cries for me to open windows. When I close them, he cries for what seems like eternity to have them open again. He just seems to be in a constant state of upset. Extra attention and playtime do not help. As soon as I'm done giving him attention, he goes back to the door and starts to whine again.
I have had many cats over the years (including another adopted feral), my entire life, and never had problems that I couldn't deal with by just changing the environment, my approach, or more interaction. I am lost.
What do I do? I cannot handle the whining, in all honesty it's driving me nuts. I am bonded to him, but part of me wants to put him back outside. I fear for his safety though, because I see at least one roadkill kitty in this neighborhood every month. I have never been a supporter of indoor/outdoor cats, but I think it's what he wants. He did great for a year, now he seems miserable. He is either yowling, pacing, or sulking. I know he has been through a lot of change, but Pepper is fine, and I've noticed that he is worse the more time I have the windows open or let him on the porch. It's like he is getting the taste of outdoors again and wants to be back out there.
Should I put him back outside? Do indoor/outdoor? Contact a rescue to rehome him? What are your thoughts?
Thank you for your help. I am at wits end.