Ugh, how aggravating! I would be really resentful of being put in that situation too. Some people make it so hard for others to help them, and it's not always entirely their own fault--if some of these people didn't struggle so much, for whatever reason, with these sorts of basic and integral skill sets, like time management, planning, organization, etc. they might have an easier time of looking after themselves and might not be in such dire straits in the first place. It's sad, and you feel for them, but it doesn't make them any easier to deal with. And, of course, as you said, the cats are blameless in this situation and have no means by which to help themselves. It's hard not to feel a bit like your compassion is being used as a tool of manipulation because, of course, you'll stay up all night making phone calls and sending emails, calling in favours, and just generally stressing out and running yourself ragged to save the lives of someone else's cats! Been there, done that--I'd do it again in a second if necessary, but wow, does it ever make me angry and upset! Situations like this are part of the reason compassion burnout is so prevalent a problem for people who rescue.
I'm with you 100% about not trusting the RSPCA--if even just because any large organization or municipal shelter like that is so bureaucratic that cats do end up falling through the cracks. I've not personally had this happen, mind you, but I do know of other rescuers who have had their cats mistakenly euthanized by such facilities. I also agree with Heather that under normal circumstances, were you not involved, that this man would not be getting his cats back, and he would not be in a position to dictate what happened to them or that they be kept together. I don't know the specifics of his situation, so I can't pass judgement over whether or not this man will be likely to be able to provide for his 4 cats in the future, nor do I think that it's possible to rule on whether or not he truly loves his pets, considering the sorts of personal and social issues that come into play when discussing topics like homelessness, unemployment, and poverty and their causes. I would posit that living in an apartment would be a much better situation than living in a cage at the RSPCA waiting to be either adopted, which might make the cage time worth it in the long run, or euthanized. For the cats' sakes though, it would certainly be nice for them to be kept together if they're emotionally attached to one another. It's so hard to find placements for 4 cats, though! *pulls out hair* This situation has me stressing out just discussing it, lol!
Proud people-mommy of Galileo, Dante, Cosette, Autumn,
Ramona & Choco-cat (and foster kitty, Poe).
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