I really need some advice here. So I just joined and I have been reading many of the threads and already have found some things that are really helpful and enlightening!
My three kids (ages 11, 13 and 15) and I have been fostering 6 kittens that came from a feral colony, we did TNR and the adults went back (they are well fed there), and we hung on to the kittens. They were about 3 months when we got them, and I felt they had a chance even though 12 -14 weeks is borderline for easy socialization. For the most part it has gone great. Most were super duper shy but really sweet. Four warmed up pretty fast and we have adopted them out to great homes! I am down to my last two. A little girl, Bella and her brother Dandelion. Bella was the first of the kittens we caught on labor day weekend. She was shy and did not allow you to handle her. But she had not been aggressive and just needed more time. She is now purry and active and really a cutie. She purrs when she sees you! Dandelion was the last kitten we caught - just about a month ago. And although he had not been aggressive really when he came, he now wants to swat you whenever you get close to him. If you have a treat in hand he'll try and swat you so you drop it rather than eat it from your fingers!
I have tried just about everything I have read on this one. I know all kitties are different and this one might just have a tough personality, but I worry about him because he seems to not really want to have anything to do with us or being a pet. Even with Bella to set the example - she is rubbing on us and in our laps and rolling on the floor and running to the door to greet us, and he spits still when we come in the room - and more spitting if we get too close. When he's eating I can pet him, but once he figures out what I am doing he backs off and hisses.
I have tried not petting him and going hands off, separating him from his sister so he bonds more with us, keeping them together so he can learn from her tameness (plus they do enjoy each other), I got a Feliway plug in a week ago (no noticeable difference), I got chicken babyfood which he will eat off my fingers, we play with him (he really wants to but still can't get totally into it...). He does remain "visible" more than he was. He'll be out and come towards us to see if we have food. But wants nothing to do with anything in terms of being touched or handled. So funny he is from the same litter, the other 5 caught on quick.
Just looking for some guidance on what to do, ideally. Let him be? Don't try to touch him? Get him in a smaller space and start over? (I had him in a 3 decker kitten pen but now both kittens have the run of a bedroom). Get him in a towel and hug him anyway? I have people telling me to release him back but I really don't want to do that
Love to know if anyone has run across a similar challenge and what you did about it. Thank you so much for any advice!