my little man was just like that when he was a kitten.... me and him would fight just like a mom and son would. lol once i had him neutered, after a year or less, he calmed down quite a bit.
however, him being part siamese, he still has that wild independent streak in him. so to help with that, i do like mentioned above. he has a cat tree, a little sister (lol), catnip toys, etc. i even have him a stroller i take him outside with me. he LOVES that and it calms him down greatly!