Husband thinks we got the wrong cat...
Hi all! I'm a newbie here, jumping in with my first cat question! I know it's been discussed before, but I'm looking for some perspective on dual issues.
My husband and I recently adopted a cat we named "Murph." He comes from the shelter, where he was given up after his family of 6 years decided he was too afraid of their dog to keep him any longer. Murph had only ever lived with that family, so as you can imagine, shelter life did not agree with him.
Well, we have a young daughter who loves cats and would love a cat to play with, but Murph has not emerged from underneath the bed in 2 weeks. He seems to barely eat or drink and as a result uses the litter box sparingly. He's gone on brief tours of the house, but "Base Camp One" as I call it, is in our daughter's room. His food, toys, litter box, bed, blankets and everything is in there. I have lined his little food area with her old clothing, so he associates her smell with good things.
Here's where it gets tricky. My husband is fed up with the cat. He wants to give him back. He says "We didn't get a cat that's just going to hide and not interact, we got him for [daughter] and he won't go near her, he needs to live with an older person or a single person who won't care if he hides all day, etc."
I am not giving up on this cat. Yes, I knew my husband had reservations about how timid he was. And maybe I was wrong to choose a cat that was hiding in a corner at the shelter for a little kid. But I just wasn't leaving without him. So now I need to make this work. I can accept that he might just always be a shy cat, but I am extremely worried about his health and my husband's growing frustration. The vet says he's healthy but might hide for weeks to come. Help! How can I get this cat to join the family? He is the only pet.