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My husband and I have a ten month old male cat named Watson. He is neutered and is very sociable and loves to be around people. He follows us around the house and is always willing to play. We recently decided to get a second cat, not only for ourselves but also to give Watson a playmate since he is so friendly and active.
We adopted a (about) three month old female kitten named Noriko ("Nori"). She has been spayed, but it was shortly before we adopted her because her tummy hair is still growing in.
When we first brought her home, we tried to divide her and Watson up to make sure she was comfortable. Both cats began pawing at the door trying desperately to meet each other, so we let them interact for a little bit. There was not much hissing, mostly just some low growls. We let them interact for short periods of time and always supervised. But, the longer they interacted the more "aggressive" it seemed to get. They would do the normal "bop" thing, but Watson started to chase her around the house and grab her hips with his front paws and then act like he was going to mate with her - he would bite her neck and kick her with his back paws and then she would meow (once or twice in a very loud pained sounding way - which we immediately broke up). Then he would lick her fervently and let her go, then chase her again. She eventually ends up hiding under the bed. He has never behaved in a sexual manner before.
We decided to try the methods I have read about here and on other sites to make sure they aren't being introduced too fast. I have now been keeping them in separate rooms and then will switch them, I feed them on opposite sides of the door, and I have let him inspect her while she is in a crate (though I hear this is debated). They do not hiss at each other. All she does is let out a low growl and will at times meow at him. They like to hit each others paws under the door and when I open it up a crack.
My only concern is that he doesn't show aggression towards her except for the seemingly violent mounting - I say violent just because it seems to hurt/upset her at times (it looks like he is biting her very hard), although there have been no wounds. I don't want to introduce them too fast, especially because she is so little and he is fairly large and strong, but I'm also wondering if they need to spend more time together so that he can assert his dominance and get it over with.
She is a very well-adjusted kitten, and they both act completely normal on their own and still use the litter, eat, etc. When they first met he even allowed her to eat out of his bowl while he stood and watched!
My other concern is that there is a stray un-fixed male that comes into our backyard and taunts Watson through our screened porch. Could this be causing part of the sexual dominance that Watson is displaying? We want to see if it has an owner and get it fixed ASAP.
Thank you for any help you can give me! Sorry this was so long, I just wanted to give all the details. I'm sure they will end up being fine, it's just hard to see him "mount" her in such an aggressive way and then watch her be upset and hear her loud cries.
We adopted a (about) three month old female kitten named Noriko ("Nori"). She has been spayed, but it was shortly before we adopted her because her tummy hair is still growing in.
When we first brought her home, we tried to divide her and Watson up to make sure she was comfortable. Both cats began pawing at the door trying desperately to meet each other, so we let them interact for a little bit. There was not much hissing, mostly just some low growls. We let them interact for short periods of time and always supervised. But, the longer they interacted the more "aggressive" it seemed to get. They would do the normal "bop" thing, but Watson started to chase her around the house and grab her hips with his front paws and then act like he was going to mate with her - he would bite her neck and kick her with his back paws and then she would meow (once or twice in a very loud pained sounding way - which we immediately broke up). Then he would lick her fervently and let her go, then chase her again. She eventually ends up hiding under the bed. He has never behaved in a sexual manner before.
We decided to try the methods I have read about here and on other sites to make sure they aren't being introduced too fast. I have now been keeping them in separate rooms and then will switch them, I feed them on opposite sides of the door, and I have let him inspect her while she is in a crate (though I hear this is debated). They do not hiss at each other. All she does is let out a low growl and will at times meow at him. They like to hit each others paws under the door and when I open it up a crack.
My only concern is that he doesn't show aggression towards her except for the seemingly violent mounting - I say violent just because it seems to hurt/upset her at times (it looks like he is biting her very hard), although there have been no wounds. I don't want to introduce them too fast, especially because she is so little and he is fairly large and strong, but I'm also wondering if they need to spend more time together so that he can assert his dominance and get it over with.
She is a very well-adjusted kitten, and they both act completely normal on their own and still use the litter, eat, etc. When they first met he even allowed her to eat out of his bowl while he stood and watched!
My other concern is that there is a stray un-fixed male that comes into our backyard and taunts Watson through our screened porch. Could this be causing part of the sexual dominance that Watson is displaying? We want to see if it has an owner and get it fixed ASAP.
Thank you for any help you can give me! Sorry this was so long, I just wanted to give all the details. I'm sure they will end up being fine, it's just hard to see him "mount" her in such an aggressive way and then watch her be upset and hear her loud cries.
