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(Maybe this should have been my introduction post?)

I am on disability due to being Bipolar (with the emphasis on depression.)

Is it wrong (or selfish or whatever) of me to want to adopt 2 kittens to keep me company during the day when hubby is at work and I'm alone? Then I would have someone who NEEDS me to get up off my butt and FUNCTION. Someone who I could interact with, someone who I could think of besides JUST ME. I have been reading this forum like mad and asking questions so I will know what I am getting into and I KNOW from having pets before (tho never cats) that they are a COMMITMENT and the kittens WILL have a forever home with us.

My psychiatrist, my therapist and my hubby all think this would be a good thing for me. (Personally, I think the kittens should qualify as a “service animal”.)

In August when we move, we'll be moving to a cat-friendly apartment. Hubby is EXTREMELY supportive of me wanting/getting 2 kittens and is going to help me build a cat tree – I have to do the sisal wrapping and carpet attaching to the shelves and he'll put it all together (cuz he's a carpenter).

I feel like I am pregnant! I go between being so excited that I can barely stand it to feeling so overwhelmed that I don't know how I can stand that!

All of the pets I've had before were snap-decision/no planning events – I've had a dog, 3 rabbits and a 6' iguana in the last 22 yrs hubby + I have been together. I've never PLANNED on an adoption the way I am now and I am SO second guessing myself - I don't know if I am being selfish or what . . .

Maybe I just needed to vent . . . thanks for "listening" . . .

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Kittens are very sweet, and their antics are adorable...but they are a LOT of work. Two kittens is easier than one in some ways, but it's also double the paws to trim.

TBH I'd think a calmer and more relaxed adult cat might help more...but I'm a big fan of going to the shelter and letting the cat pick you. Adult cats have much harder times finding homes, adult bonded pairs even more so.
 

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As long as the added financial burden (i.e. cat food/litter/vet appointments) won't be a strain, then I say go for it! :) You don't necessarily need to adopt kittens, a bonded pair of young adults i.e. ~2 years old could work as well. Good luck with your decision.
 

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I don't think it is selfish as long as you are committed to the welfare of the cats and giving them a forever home, not just your own welfare. I think it is a win-win. :thumb
 

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1) can you afford to properly care for the added kitten appetites?
2) can you properly provide attention, love, and playtime for the kittens?
3) can you provide them with a separate room for quarantine/slow introduction to the existing household?

If yes to all the above, go forth and kitten.....
 

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I think you're going to enjoy them tremendously. They'll drive you nuts, but you'll find yourself falling in love every minute.

Like you said, they will be very helpful in establishing a routine. (cats LOVE routines!)
I think the kittens would be perfect because they are so needy. They will keep you on your toes, so no time to mope around ;)

And just think, somewhere there are a couple of little kittens daydreaming about their forever home. What their new kitty mom will be like. Going to sleep each night hoping she will be someone like you. :)
 

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I am on total disability for Bipolar 1 and Complex PTSD. My psych and therapist both thought it would be a good idea to have a companion animal. My psych even wrought a script so that the apt. I lived in would take Mia. I have had her for 3 years now and she gives me a reason to get up and going in the mornings. I love her dearly and I know she does me too. I cant imagine life without her. She has helped me thru so much. Even a stroke and now my epilepsy. I think it would be great for you to have a cat. Just know that most apt. buildings will only let you have no more than one and usually only with a dr. prescription.

Mia was 7 weeks old when I got her. It was a lot of work but VERY rewarding too. :)
 

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I salute you for your openness about your bipolar.
Hope things would be better for you very soon.

I totally recommend you to bring a cat... and to be precise: a Kitten. Having a very small pet in your hands will get you engaged fast with it in a very tired-up bond. And the bond would be reciprocal. The kitten will give you more love, affection, and feelings as in return it would expect attention, care, and dedicated time.

Having a double will double everything... from the pleasurable moments to the painstaking hours. But I am sure they will keep you totally occupied. Just manage a routine-schedule for them and they follow it.

I have lived 17 years alone in my apartment... when I first brought Blacky a few months ago, it was just a little black ball of fur. I watched him grew and change.. and the more I watch, the more I get in contact with him, and the more my love grows for him. His presence has changed many things in my life... and all are positive things.

Go for it. Don't hesitate.
 

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I don't think your selfish at all....
As long as you keep up and make sure you are medicated or going to counselling to keep level, its definitely a part of therapy....
I fought real bad depression (suicidal) and a bit of ptsd (bad boyfriends) and cats got me loving life again....
So as long as you are able to take care of them if they are sick and right on top of your counselling sessions, it will definitely make your therapy very well rounded.
It helped me tremendously....
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I agree. I suffer from chronic depression and is was feeling a bit lonely because my schedule at my new job meant that I was working on a different schedule than my boyfriend, so I got a cat and it has been wonderful. She definitely has motivated me to get up earlier and keep a routine. And it's wonderful coming home to a loving cat who greets me at the door rather than an empty home.
 

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Are you unable to leave the house? If so cats would be great. If you are able to leave the house, I think a dog might be a better idea because it would force you to take him for walks; i.e., get outside more.

Otherwise, I think a couple of companion animals (or one active young adult that loves laps) would be great.
 

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Not selfish at all. Although, you might want to look into adopting an older pair. A kitten can be frustrating and overwhelming at times, and I personally couldn't imagine handling two at once. My boys are just over a year old and I'm still looking forward to the day when they calm down a bit.


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My sister is on SSI and is bipolar too. Her cats have been her constant companions. They are more flexible than dogs and will snuggle and interact with you. Right now I have two of her cats while she is moving and finding a new home in another state. She is missing her cats like crazy.

She has taken fosters also. She isn't a very patient person so kitten would drive her crazy at times since they are into everything and require a lot more supervision. I think its just what you think your ready for.

To me the cats we journey with in our lives are a wonderful gift. I think a cat would be a perfect addition to your challenges.

I wish you lived near Tucson I have the perfect two cats for you! They are sisters who were just returned because their former owner has to move out of state and there was a limit on how many pets in their new housing. These girls are super super social and love being with people and sleeping with you but still love to play.

Good luck on finding your new companions. Im sure there is the perfect cat or cats or kittens out there for you who will enrich your life even more.
 

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I think having two kittens would be wonderful for you.i ha depression and my cats are so wonderful. They keep me company and give me a reason to get up and do things that I may not have the energy or willingness to do. I say go for it. Two kittens are easier than one as they have a playmate. They will keep you entertained and give you unconditional love.
 

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Kittens are definitely more work, and need supervision and more play time, but it's definitely worth it to watch them grow up and their personalities develop.

As far as taking them outside with you, I take my two out for walkies in a pet stroller and they love the change of scene and smelling all the different scents in the air. It depends where you live... a very busy street with a lot of people or traffic will not likely enchant them, but a quieter neighborhood, with trees, or in a park I'm sure they will enjoy that better.
 

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If I was in your situation, I would consider a dog... dogs are great to make you get up, play with them, and most importantly, take them for walks.

Kittens are another option, but I would consider that plan B if you do not think you can handle the higher demands of a dog. (mind you, two kittens is a LOT of work)
 

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To echo what others say as long as you can provide it's not selfish at all. I do think some of the other folks might have a point about a dog but I can't imagine not having my kitty curling up in my lap when I get home.
 

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I'd love to have a dog again but unfortunately, it's impossible to find an apartment or duplex that allows dogs, let alone one that has a fenced in yard . . . it was quite a chore to find a place that would allow *2* cats!

I want to get 2 male kittens from the same litter so they will already be bonded and they will have someone to talk to and to keep each other occupied (sometimes) and so they don't get TOO bored + so (hopefully) keep them out of SOME trouble . . . that's ON TOP of interactions with ME, NOT instead of!

This theory worked very well when I had 2 rabbits that had the run of the house and I think it'll work good with kittens too.

THANK YOU for all the support! :)
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Meh, up until my boys I was a hardcore dog person. Now, I'll stick with my cats.

Cats require attention, but not to the extent dogs do (in my opinion). Not to mention, I'll pass on having to scoop up warm dog poop by hand multiple times per day... BLECH

I was unemployed for almost 2 years and I went through a MAJOR depressive bout. MowMow was my reason for getting up every day. I FORCED me to get out of bed, feed him, and interact wiht him. Then he was happy to cuddle IN bed with me for hours on end until he required his next meal and more interactive play again.

My boys are wonderful. MowMow is my lovebug cuddler-companion (always wanting hugs and face kisses). He's always like, "You're the best mom ever, you give the greatest kisses. Kiss me on the face. Hey, kiss me on the face. More. You have to kiss me MORE and cradle me in your arms while I nap. Yes, perfect... but more kisses please."

Book is my comic relief and my quiet companion(doesn't want to be touched other than a few strokes. Just wants to sit next to me while I nap). He just wants to be near me all the time and share every awesome experience he has with me. Things like, "WOW, Check out this EPIC piece of yarn?! Have you SEEN THIS THING?! Look. Look! LOOKKK!!!!! Woah, wth? Don't TOUCH me, just look at my STRING!"
 

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LOL! Yes, that is EXACTLY what I need! :) I wish I didn't have to wait FIVE LONG MONTHS to adopt . . . :( (we don't move until August)

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