Cat Forum banner
1 - 4 of 4 Posts

·
Registered
Joined
·
2 Posts
Discussion Starter · #1 ·
I’ve had my one cat for awhile now named Alex. She showed up as a stray and it was love at first sight. She’s pretty particular and is very loving so long as it’s on her terms. This other cat who was 2 at the time, we adopted while in college when I was away from my own cat. His name is Dusty. He was super shy at first but now complains about everything and mostly behaves like a dog trapped in a cats body. Now that introductions are over, my point. Both cats have been together now for maybe a year and a half with no real issues but Dusty follows Alex around everywhere. Not in an aggressive manner just being a weird stalker. If she was sitting in one spot for awhile he stares and eventually lays down near her. Once she gets up he sniffs right where she was. When she’s sleeping in her little house he sticks his paw through the window and gently touches her where she wakes up and hisses at him for messing with her. They get along well aside from Dusty sometimes pushing the limits on how close he can get to her. They never fight either, Alex will just hiss and swipe at him once before moving on. He just always stares and wants to get near her but she is not having it and never reciprocates any of this but when you look that up all that comes up is, “aggression,” and, “dominant behavior” when it doesn’t fit either of those. It is quite obvious that Alex is on top here and she lets him know that. I’m just curious why he does this and fear that he will be lonely when we go out separate ways since technically Dusty is my sisters cat after we took him from our ex roommate who abused him. We never let it get bad but we both knew it’d get bad if we didn’t take him. Thanks for helping out and if anyone has any idea why he does this, it’d be greatly appreciated if you had any advice.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
736 Posts
Good for you for taking in Alex and very glad you saved Dusty from an abusive situation!

I believe you're right that this isn't aggressive or dominant behavior. Some cats like to cuddle up together and some do not. I think Dusty is trying to get close to Alex so they can cuddle, and Alex is just saying no!

My Kate is a people-person. She tolerates other cats but could certainly do without them. Coco loves everybody, but every time she tried to get close to Kate, she got the hiss&swat routine too. It took 2 years before Kate let Coco curl up with her. There's no way of knowing what Alex and Dusty will end up doing, but as long as nobody's getting hurt, I'd let them work this out for themselves.

Both people and pets take a while to adjust to a new environment and routine, so when you do go your separate ways, just give it some time to settle in and see how you and your sister feel about adopting another cat.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
2 Posts
Discussion Starter · #3 ·
Thank you, I figured the situation wouldn’t escalate since it’s been quite some time with no change but I was more curious than anything since it was brought up in conversation the other day and no matter how much I searched I couldn’t find an answer that seemed to fit. Only one similar was that the cat was bonded with another before being separated and so they were trying to bond with the new cat and they weren’t having it. Because of that I was concerned he’d be lonely without another cat around.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
736 Posts
Yes, I think your theory is exactly right. We don't always know our cat's backgrounds when we adopt them, but it does sound like Dusty was used to cuddling and is confused about Alex's reaction. And we always feel terrible when our cats are not happy! Just hang in there and see how you feel when your situation changes, and we'll be here to try to help with the transition if need be.
 
1 - 4 of 4 Posts
Top