DustyLou- (oh man, sorry so long!!!)
I recently went through this with my 5-yo female cat Stephen - who has a very dominant, "I am the queen" personality. She absolutely will not tolerate other cats. We brought home a 5-mo Yorkie 5 weeks ago. I was worried, but I received a lot of advice here that I can pass on to you.
The most important thing, I've learned, is make sure your cat will have space when he/she wants to get away from the puppy. Luckily cats can climb higher! We put up a child gate to block off our storage room. This allows Stephen a place for food, litter box, and space - and the puppy can't get into it. Stephen likes to sit in the room and look out at everyone. She's almost like, "This is my room. So beat it." 8O
Another thing is to discourage the puppy from chasing the cat. Although this can be fun for puppy, an adult cat may not appreciate it. I know Stephen doesn't.
And, above all, don't cut down whatsoever of your attention toward the cat. Keep any routines you have as far as playtime and affection. You don't want kitty to get jealous.
Ok... here's our situation, now.
It's been 5 weeks, and they get along well. Within the first week, I was able to hold both in my lap, although very separately -- they by no means cuddle! LOL.
Our puppy was actually the jealous one. She was in my lap one day and Stephen came up, the puppy snapped at her. Not allowed.
The puppy likes to follow Stephen around and play with her tail. Sometimes Stephen will allow it, other times she escapes.
Now Stephen initiates play by running at the puppy sideways, back arched, and stopping right in front of her... then dashing off.
Oh, and watch for the smart kitty to try to set up the puppy to get in trouble. Stephen likes to do that!
All in all, I guess I can say that it will work itself out. Just be the "Mom" and the mediator and let them work at their own pace for accepting each other.
whew... that was too long. i must rest.