This is long so I do apologize, I need help understanding how to help my cat become less clingy. I have a beautiful female torti I adopted from a shelter 4 years ago. A friend had told me about her; the shelter was having a bit of a hard time placing her as she was very nervous and would hide anytime they brought her out to show prospective adopters. She was placed briefly with an older couple who tried to make her a lap cat, that didn't go well with them getting scratched to pieces so they brought her back to the shelter. When I got her I brought her home and put her in a spare room set up with everything she needed. She hid under the bed and wouldn't come out, but I stayed in the room and read softly hoping that would soothe her a bit. The next morning I went into her room and she came out so affectionate she almost scared me - I was waiting for her to attack. She never did, and since then has been very, very attached to me. I was thrilled with that because this was all new to her and to see her not scared and trusting me was a huge step. She slowly warmed up to my husband and is really a very sweet girl. But, even after 4 years she is still very, very clingy - she even attacks my husband when she wants my attention, not all the time but she is very possessive and is not shy to show it. At times she will bite me if I'm not paying attention to her. If I'm in the kitchen or otherwise preoccupied she will sit and wait for me, and will follow me and cry until I sit down so she can sit on my lap. She sleeps with me every night, usually pressed up against me or on top of me. It's all very sweet but my concern is that this is not healthy for her. I try to give her as much attention as I can but I don't rush to her like I did the first couple of years, hoping she'll get used to the idea that nothing terrible will happen if she has to wait a minute or two. I'm wondering if anyone else has dealt with this, and if there was anything that could help her be more confident. Thank you!