One of my best friends is in theater. She is in and out of work constantly...a starving artist if you will. She has tried to hold down part time/full time work to have when she is not performing/directing. Well right now she is completely out of a job. She is looking but not too much luck. This weekend coming is her birthday. I was hoping to wisk her away this weekend to our friend's place in NY and have a birthday/christmas celebration for her there. Well her boyfriend really wants to have a birthday party for her here in VT. She is kinda on the outs with him but he is insistant on doing this for her. he doesn't want to go to NY because my friend has cats and he is allergic (refuses to take his allergy medication because he thinks it will effect his performance on New Years..mind you that is 2 weeks away). Anyways....so she has just been really depressed and doesn't want to do anything for her birthday or christmas. Her grandfather is dying too and she really wants to see him soon before it's too late. She has nooo money at all. She is waiting for some credit card to come in the mail so she can afford to go see him since its about a 3 hour drive. But she said the card may not come for a few weeks. So I hadn't gotten her presents yet because I was waiting to have some money myself. I was going to get her a massage and some bath and body stuff to make her feel better as I knew she has been a bit depressed for a while and I thought it may help just a little. Well I am thinking now maybe I should just give her what I was going to spend on presents in cash (about $50). I know she needs the money but I don't know if this is a good idea or not. I asked my boyfriend and he said he wasn't sure either. He is afraid she may not spend it wisely. what do you all think? I am afraid it might make her upset too.