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My Heart is broken and it feels like thier is a weight on my chest-I'v lost my best friend due to my own stupidity-How do I get over my hurt and move on? No way this can be undone, either; I just got so angry about her saying she was my friend and then excusing people,IE her boyfriend who'd bad mouth me, and his best friend who threatend to punch me in the face; They think just because I was raised to be very polite That I am 'Not real' and a bunch of other stuff-I was rude to her over the phone and She has not called me. Sorry for the sob story. Just had to vent.
 

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Give it time. Depending on your age, things like these pass quickly and easily. As cheesy as the saying is, time really does heal all wounds. For the most part, anyway.

*hugs to you*
 

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nerilka said:
I just got so angry about her saying she was my friend and then excusing people,IE her boyfriend who'd bad mouth me, and his best friend who threatend to punch me in the face;
If she has no problem with her boyfrined and his friend treating you so badly than maybe you are better off not having her as your friend :(

Your friends should support you and care about you enough to stand up for you.
 

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She does not hate me, exactly-She dosen't understand why I don't feel comfortable with her friends-all fairly heavy drinking, kinda promiscuis 20 somethings; I am 24, but I guess I was too sheltered, I don't fit in with them and it makes me snappy when I expected to just 'relax' and can't-That is not me! we went to a movie last night, though-I am cool with her, i guess.She is very sweet, I can be a pain some times :roll: She is the type to go clubbing all night, Able to flirt, outgoing all that -not me! not without a few shots, any how :lol: she don't get me, really. she tries though! I'll go out with them any more. Just not comfortable.
 

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She is of the opinion if you hit a guy he has the right to hit back- The story goes: he slapped my but-Not cool!, even if I was intimate with him monthe's before, So i slapped him on the arm- The point to me was I could not hurt but he could really hurt me! she yelled at him later and told them how offended I was, though! ;One of the many reasons I am choosing not hang with them anymore.
 

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I know,shengmei, This drama is going to stop;It is not healthy for me. I have plans for my future
 

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You don't need to be hanging out with them, especially if you feel uncomfortable. Nothing to feel bad about except the way it ended, but you'll get over it 8)
 

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You are too old for this. Twenty-four is a time for getting independent, buying a house, getting married and planning your future.
Yikes... that's some serious stuff. You need to be able to have fun no matter what age you are. (says the married 25-year-old who doesn't drink...)

Don't rush your growing up. It's inevitable; you don't need to help it along.

And definitely don't rush into buying a house and getting married! Buying a house doesn't make sense if you don't know where you're going to be in five years, in my opinion. Sure, it's possible to toss houses away like Kleenex, but it's very expensive and tiring. A life plan is a good thing to have, but at twenty-four, it may still change. Don't make your life too rigid. You may discover other things that interest you more.
 

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At the mid-twenties, there are a variety of maturity levels. Some people reach maturity in the early twenties, but in my experience, most don't reach maturity until the late twenties or early thirties.

You have to do what feels right for you. When you are young, clubbing is fun...up to a point. Then it gets to be a lonely existence. You find that you don't really have much in common with alot of your party friends, except for the "partying"...no one can't do that forever and have a happy life.

I am really distressed about the "hitting and hitting back" statement, but I may have misunderstood. Even when it starts out in fun, it can escalate and lead to abusive behaviors, especially if there is drinking involved.

People change a lot between the ages of 20 and 30. This is why people who are friends in high school or college, don't always get along after the mid-twenties. We go in a different directions, which is okay...that makes the world what it is. It just means that sometimes we have nothing in common with our school friends (or party friends) anymore.

This doesn't mean your friendship has to end, or even change, really. Give it some time. Talk it out. Let it take its course, and above all else: be true to yourself and your values!

Uhm...I am getting old, so I should shut-up. :p
 
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