Kimmie is a female grey tabby stray that's about 9 months now that adopted me and we have had her for 2 months now. Ka'ana the Siamese still hates her. I've tried everything: flower essence, vanilla, keeping them in separate rooms and also put them in room where there is a door that separates the entry way into the house that has open slats. There they view each other and smell each other. Their food areas are directly across from each other but with the door in the way. I even change rooms so Ka'ana can get use to the new scent. My meezer is normally such a sweetheart and she's 6 years old. She's even more cuddly & affectionate after her brother Harley died 3-4 weeks ago. There have been times we forgot to shut the door tight and Ka'ana makes her way into the room and fights so fiercely, she has ripped Kimmie to shreds. All the fur that flying was Kimmie's. Kimmie freaks, shakes with fear and pees all over herself too. I don't know what to do. I love them both but if there's NO light at the end tunnel, I might have to give up Kimmie. My husband says its not fair for either of them to live like this. So before I do anything that drastic, how EXACTLY do I re-introduce the new kitty? I've read the articles and I don't understand what I'm doing wrong. Any suggestions and experiences out there especially to cat parents of 2-5 cats? How do you manage?