[brandon]

back in the spring I brought my first cat into my home. I got her (sophie) from a rescue group here and she was about 3 months old. We got along very well and she has been at my side all the time I was at home. I gave her lots of attention and she loved it. At the time I was living in a small apartment and there really wasnt room for another cat in the house at the time and although I wanted her to have a buddy, untill I moved somewhere bigger I didnt feel like it was a good idea then.

Fast forward to now and I have bought my first home. Sophie really loves her new space to run and I was getting the feeling that she needed someone else to keep her company while I was gone at work now that we had the space. I wanted to do this ASAP after moving into the new house because I didnt want her to used to the new place being all of hers and not sharing with another cat.

Well I went back to the rescue group and talked about the cats they had and I chose a male (murphy) that was just a bit younger than sophie and a real sweetheart. I brought him home and was planning on giving him a room to hang out in till I could give them some time together but he was having nothing to do with that. He cried and cried untill I let him out of his room. I decided to let them just go for it and see what happend. Murphy pretty much ignored Sophie but she didnt care for him one bit.

Murphy has never been agressive with Sophie except in play when he has gotten too rough for her and shes hissed at him. The both chase each other around some and do all the stuff I expect of two cats.

They now get along together but I have one problem. Sophie now ignores me whenever Murphy is in the room. She wont let me rub on her or play with her if hes in the room. In some rooms she wont even come in if Murphy and I am in the room. She will sit outside the room and look in and thats about it.

They seem to get along. I have caught them sleeping in a chair together and I have seen him licking on her before. He doesnt seem to mind sharing my attention but she wont have anything to do with it.

Since I have gotten him, from time to time he has fallen asleep somewhere else and she has come to me for attention but as soon as he wakes up and comes looking where everyone went she will jump down and either leave the room or move to the other side of the room.

Anybody have any ideas how to get Sophie to let me pay her some attention?

 

[kitkat]

Have you tried feeding them together and petting her or playing with them at the same time and praising the kitties? Maybe your kitty is just thinking that you have the other kitty now to pet and love on so make sure you give Sophie lots of attention and treats and if she ever goes up to you while Murphy is there, give lots and lots of attention and love... She is probably just a bit distant and jealous right now

Good Luck and let us know what happens!

 

[brandon]

oh ya I play with her whenever I can(IE when she will let me) and if I find them in the house together I rub on the both.

I give her treats daily since Murphy came into the house. I will continue this and let you know how it goes over the next few weeks.

 

[kitkat]

If she likes canned food, it will work in your favor to feed her some when the other kitty is around.... :wink:

Good luck :!:

 

[brandon]

you know I tried the feeding them some "treats" and that has seemed to help some.

Right now the kids are getting along a lot better than before the holidays.

 

[mismodliz]

Can't say I know this to be true...

but when I was talking to a pet shop owner about bringing another cat home, he said that since Stephen and I are so close (she's my baby!) that there's a chance she may never treat me the same if I were to bring another home. This really worried me! We tried anyway, but after Stephen stalked and attempted to hunt the kitten, back he went to the pet store. To me it wasn't worth losing my cat's love or torturing a poor kitten.

I don't know if this is what happened in your case...as I said it's just what I was told is a possibility.

Has anyone actually had this happen to them?

 

[brandon]

Sophie really seemed to do this to me for a while. She is slowly coming around and I am getting her attention again, even if it is not so much as before. I can accept this though cause shes got someone else in her life now to keep company besides me.

This morning I was treated to an excited Sophie when she figured out I was waking up and she wanted all the attention I could muster (which is not much at 6am)