Hello we have adopted a kitten 1 month ago from a friend of a friend. She had informed me when I went to pick it up this litter was a nervous one. It took her 3 days to find the cat so I could take it home. She didn't and we still don't know if its male or female. We have had the cat since Sept 1st and its scared and always hiding. It only comes out at night. The first 2 weeks it wouldn't eat. Finally it started to eat only at night though. It didn't use a litter box either it has used my couch ,recliner, and. Bathroom floor MD bath mat. It has Finally started using litter box but sometimes poops out of box sometimes poops in it. It will let me pet it. But it always looks scared. It hasn't had shots . I talk to the cat I try to make comfortable areas. It used to meow all night but has stopped that. I have had cats all my life my last 2 passing 3 years ago. I am at a loss here on what to do? If you try to pick it up it bolts.