Kittens don't rub their heads against me :-(

I've learned that cats like people are different from one another and if we put expectations in our relationships we will often be disappointed when they are not met.
My Meme was the most polite cat I've ever known, she'd meow for permission before coming to my lap, she'd sit there happily for hours while I watched TV and gentle petted her but as soon as I stirred to get up she'd jump down and when I returned to my chair the process would be repeated.
When she died I was devastated, I knew I wanted another cat and I adopted Samantha,
In the 15 1/2 years Samantha and I spent together she never sat in my lap, she'd sit on the arm of the chair and that was as close as she'd get.
At first I was disappointed but I came to accept her for who she was not who I wanted her to be.
She had different qualities then Meme, she was very playful and athletic and we spent hours every evening playing fetch and other games.
I came to love her as deeply as I had loved Meme because she was a wonderful friend in her own way.
No one can say for certain if your kittens will ever become lap cats but you should except them the way they are and love and cherish them.

At 4 months, kitties that age are usually too much being busy bodies playing or chasing they may not come and cuddle, but just collapse and sleep when tiredness comes upon them. They may cuddle later near a year old when they're mature, but it will be whatever it is. Sometimes tho if cats are picked up and cuddled a lot they develop almost an aversion to it, and really want to come and cuddle only on their own terms. Our boy Zuba loves to be picked up by my hubby and demands cuddles especially if he sees my hubby getting ready to leave the house. On the other hand he doesn't like me picking him up so much, as I'm the one who "does things to him" such as cleaning his ears or eyes, clipping his claws. Our girl Alkee is cuddly mostly on her own terms, but sometimes will jump up in my lap from a hand signal patting my thigh. She especially likes to snuggle if I'm reading or on the computer, but often gives a noise of complaint when picked up. I swear under that white coat of hers she is masking tortie (her father was a red tabby her mom was white, so it's possible).

Thank you everyone for your replies! Marie, you have a kitty named Charlee too! Is her real name Charlotte? Mine was also a calico (was was her sister Emily).

Sigh. They are such sweet kittens (when they're not killing each other, or when Rudy isn't humping Henry - can't wait for him to get fixed next week!). But I really wonder if I shouldn't have gotten adult cats this time instead so I would know what their personalities are going to be, particularly with respect to affectionateness. All the talk of kitties snuggling on people's laps while they're watching tv... Ahhhh! Heaven. I can't even get mine to rub their faces against my hand.

I know they're such wonderful kitties in other ways. I know the fact that they let me do anything to them including flopping them over to scritch their tummies is amazing - I really do appreciate that! They even love using their scratching posts - they came "pre-trained" from the foster home! And they have their funny little quirks - different toys they like to play with; Henry always wants to eat from Rudy's dish.

But if they're not so affectionate with me now, and they turn out not to be affectionate later... I don't want to always be disappointed with this. I'm actually thinking that maybe I should give them back to the rescue group (they're still within the "probation period") and adopt an adult cat who is known to be an extremely affectionate lap cat instead. The boys could get adopted into a home where their personalities fit better (maybe a home with kids since they were great with my friend's 8-year-old niece); and I could have the cuddling and affection I long for...

I don't know for sure that I want to do this. The boys are such good kittens and I am fond of them. I knew it would be hard to bond with them since it was hard for me to bond with my girls after my first kitty died. But I'm afraid that if the boys don't turn out to be affectionate, I will always be disappointed in them, and that wouldn't be good for them or for me.

I hope it doesn't make me a horrible person to even be thinking like this. It's just that they're going to be my kitties for the next 16+ years and that's a long time to be longing for affection. :-(