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My cat, Lydia, is very sweet. But recently she's become somewhat aggressive in the mornings. When I first got her, she was sort of standoff-ish and kept to herself. But now that she's completely warmed up to me, it's very hard for me to stay asleep in the mornings.

She sleeps in the bed with me, so when she wakes up, she demands that I wake up, too. She constantly walks on top of me, over and over again, as if trying to make me uncomfortable so I can wake up. She also keeps poking me in the back of my head with her paw or tapping me directly on the face to wake me. If she's not doing that, then she gets really close to me, purring loudly, and it startles me when her whiskers rub against my face.

I've tried removing her from the room, but she just continues to meow (practically howling) extremely loud until I let her back into the room. The only thing that quiets her for maybe ten to twenty minutes is if I feed her. But it upsets me that my sleep is disrupted every morning to feed her before I'm ready to wake, and it wasn't like this when she was strictly on dry food.

This aggressive morning behavior started ever since I began feeding her the wet food. (She had some dental work done and wasn't able to eat the hard food until her mouth healed, so I started feeding it to her every morning since she likes it so much better). But now I'm thinking maybe that was a mistake.

I'm left with two choices: having her walk over me, or poke and prod at me; or listen to her whining outside my door for almost an hour.

I'm not sure what to do. I can't imagine how bad her behavior will get if I go back to feeding her only dry food. What do you think is the best thing to do (without removing the wet food) in order to get her to allow me to sleep until my alarm goes off? I haven't waken up from the alarm in almost two weeks because of this and would love to get a good, restorative sleep, for once!
 

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Our cats typically let me sleep, but every few days in the week, the 20 pounder will pounce on me or the little one will want to use the litter box and yowl to let me know he did *ugh* .
If your girl is quieted with food, can you wait to feed her right before you go to bed? If her tummy is full, she may sleep longer.
 

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I've thought of that, but the wet food gets so disgusting and dry when it sits for a while. I always leave a small amount of dry food for her to nibble on throughout the night until her full meal in the morning. So she is never without food. It's as if she doesn't give a crap about the dry food anymore since she's hooked to the wet stuff. :-( She's actually howling outside my door while there's plenty dry food sitting right there in the bowl!
 

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I'm going through this with Munch right now too... well, to be honest, I haven't had a full night's sleep since I got him, though he seems to either be settling down or I'm getting so as I can sleep through his wake up calls. I did push his feeding time to right before bed, I walk him in the evenings with the dog and we have a serious play session before I feed him... this seems to be working... knock on wood
 

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Lydia is trying to train you up right! The solution to your problem is to change the wet food feeding time to the evening instead of the morning. You can do this by slowly feeding her later and later in the day over the course of a month and your problem will be solved. Of course it means you have to put up with the pokes and prods for another month, but once she tweeks to the fact she is no longer going to be fed her wet food in the morning, she will start to settle down.

Another tactic you can use is to keep a high value cat treat on your bedside table and when she starts insisting on you getting up, give her enough of the treats that she is temporarily sated and will hopefully give you another hour of sleep!
 

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I'm going through this with Munch right now too... well, to be honest, I haven't had a full night's sleep since I got him, though he seems to either be settling down or I'm getting so as I can sleep through his wake up calls. I did push his feeding time to right before bed, I walk him in the evenings with the dog and we have a serious play session before I feed him... this seems to be working... knock on wood
I'm glad that things are starting to get a little better for you. I think I'm going to have to play with her a little more right before bed. Using a laser is really the only way that I can play with her, as she's become very untrusting because I have to give her eyedrops a lot. So it's hard to get close to her without her "suspecting" that I'm after her with the eyedrops again. I tried to wear her out last night right before bed with the laser toy, but I guess it wasn't enough. We'll see how things go. If wearing her out doesn't work, I'll switch her wet food servings to the night time and see how that works. Thank you!
 

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Lydia is trying to train you up right! The solution to your problem is to change the wet food feeding time to the evening instead of the morning. You can do this by slowly feeding her later and later in the day over the course of a month and your problem will be solved. Of course it means you have to put up with the pokes and prods for another month, but once she tweeks to the fact she is no longer going to be fed her wet food in the morning, she will start to settle down.

Another tactic you can use is to keep a high value cat treat on your bedside table and when she starts insisting on you getting up, give her enough of the treats that she is temporarily sated and will hopefully give you another hour of sleep!
Oh, that is GREAT advice! I'll be sure to do that. This sounds like it HAS to work! I can't wait to see how it goes. I'll be sure to pick up some really good treats this weekend! Thank you so much!
 

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someone told me a long time ago never to feed my cats right when I got up, to make them wait awhile so they wouldn't wake me up. yeah right lol. I have three and they all do one thing or another to let me know they're hungry. I only feed canned food, so there really isn't any way around it. I also have a geriatric cat I have to feed every 2-3 hours (except when i'm asleep, I had to draw the line somewhere) so i'm pretty resolved to the fact that I have to feed them first before anything else, and I also have to only the give the youngest one a little and then more in 20-30 minutes because he eats way too fast.

I try to feed mine the very last thing I do before I go to bed, then at least I am guaranteed 8 hours.

the fact that your cat loves canned food is good though. some people have problems changing over to wet, and the moisture content is much better for their urinary tracts. I accidentally have always fed mostly canned food, also for dental reasons. (one cat lost all his teeth, and I couldn't leave dry out for the other one because he'd eat it and just get sick.)

I have actually considered this: a mini-fridge by my bed for canned food. of course, if anyone is going to barf, i'd prefer it was in the kitchen and not my bed. :)
 

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What is the matter with you? Get with the program!! :deal - Lydia is trying her best to whip you into shape and you are totally resisting! :lol:

On a serious note, there are two things you can do to stop this.
1.: Get up at zero dark thirty and cater to her every whim.
2.: stop letting her sleep with you - no access to the bedroom at all. LOTS of people do this with great results. On "those" mornings when the fun starts at 3AM, hubby will go downstairs and everyone follows. He will then double back and put up the baby gate halfway up the stairs then close the BR door and turn on a small fan that drowns out any noise they may make from downstairs.

There may be other more practical solutions for you and your home layout. This solution may not work for you, but it may spark some sort of practical solution you can think up for your circumstances.
 

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I think it is time to revisit this oldie but goodie.

Cat Man Do - Simon's Cat - YouTube

I put out the largest meal of the day (wet food) for Max right before I go to bed. If I don't I go through the same thing. Weekends sometimes I want to sleep late and the food wears off and Max will wake me earlier than I would like. When he makes a nuisance of himself I get right up and pick him up and put him in a room on the other side of the house and shut the door. This usually has a lasting affect on him for a week or two. He really does 't want to be shut out.

Don't worry about the wet food (which is much better for your cat than dry) sitting out all night. It will probably get eaten within a few hours but if it doesn't, it won't hurt your cat.
 

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My current foster cat is always waking me up at around 4am asking to be fed. For the time being she sleeps in a crate at the foot of my bed, so she doesn't get the opportunity to physically annoy me, but she's part Oriental Shorthair, so she's got that super loud, super grating, Siamese meezer, and she gets destructive, tearing up her bedding, kicking litter all over, and knocking over her water, if I ignore her. She's also a bottomless pit, though you wouldn't know it to look at her; she's been going through 2-3 5oz. cans of wet food per day! I feed her right before I go to bed, which maybe prevents her from waking me up even earlier, but part of the issue is boredom.

Lydia is probably hungry by the time morning rolls around, but I doubt that she's starving. Indoor cats do sometimes beg for food when they're bored, and, while I'm sure that Lydia has now gotten into the routine of begging for food first thing in the morning, she may have initially done so out of a mixture of hunger and boredom, especially if she wakes up an hour or two before you do every morning. Obviously, wet food is something that she really looks forward to. Is there another activity, like a certain toy, that she also really enjoys? Could you try shutting her out of your room, but also redirecting her attention with a toy? Perhaps a puzzle toy with treats inside that she has to work at to extract?
 

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Cats are funny! My old cat would gently pat m face to wake me up. Usually gizmo will walk on me, lick my face..then my nostrils. I only caught marshall trying to wake me once and I woke up to hum face rubbing my elbow

Could you get up put the food out and then go back to bed? Thyey do sell time feeders....where you could set a time and the feeder will open up and let the cat at the foods
 

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someone told me a long time ago never to feed my cats right when I got up, to make them wait awhile so they wouldn't wake me up. yeah right lol. I have three and they all do one thing or another to let me know they're hungry. I only feed canned food, so there really isn't any way around it. I also have a geriatric cat I have to feed every 2-3 hours (except when i'm asleep, I had to draw the line somewhere) so i'm pretty resolved to the fact that I have to feed them first before anything else, and I also have to only the give the youngest one a little and then more in 20-30 minutes because he eats way too fast.

I try to feed mine the very last thing I do before I go to bed, then at least I am guaranteed 8 hours.

the fact that your cat loves canned food is good though. some people have problems changing over to wet, and the moisture content is much better for their urinary tracts. I accidentally have always fed mostly canned food, also for dental reasons. (one cat lost all his teeth, and I couldn't leave dry out for the other one because he'd eat it and just get sick.)

I have actually considered this: a mini-fridge by my bed for canned food. of course, if anyone is going to barf, i'd prefer it was in the kitchen and not my bed. :)
LOL! I'm sure sooner or later we'll find out the perfect solutions to our problems.
 

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My current foster cat is always waking me up at around 4am asking to be fed. For the time being she sleeps in a crate at the foot of my bed, so she doesn't get the opportunity to physically annoy me, but she's part Oriental Shorthair, so she's got that super loud, super grating, Siamese meezer, and she gets destructive, tearing up her bedding, kicking litter all over, and knocking over her water, if I ignore her. She's also a bottomless pit, though you wouldn't know it to look at her; she's been going through 2-3 5oz. cans of wet food per day! I feed her right before I go to bed, which maybe prevents her from waking me up even earlier, but part of the issue is boredom.

Lydia is probably hungry by the time morning rolls around, but I doubt that she's starving. Indoor cats do sometimes beg for food when they're bored, and, while I'm sure that Lydia has now gotten into the routine of begging for food first thing in the morning, she may have initially done so out of a mixture of hunger and boredom, especially if she wakes up an hour or two before you do every morning. Obviously, wet food is something that she really looks forward to. Is there another activity, like a certain toy, that she also really enjoys? Could you try shutting her out of your room, but also redirecting her attention with a toy? Perhaps a puzzle toy with treats inside that she has to work at to extract?
Lydia is so weird! It's like she has to be in a certain mood to play with toys, or to do anything, for that matter. Sometimes she even ignores the laser if she is tired, full, or just overall not in the mood. Once she has her mind set on something, she wants that, and only that. Lots of times when I try to play with her, she just stares at me like, "What are you doing, you weird human being?" I wish there were some "magic toy" that could distract her, but I'm definitely going to try some treats and see how that goes. I'll pick some different ones up this weekend and hopefully it'll quiet her in the morning until I'm ready to wake.
 

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Cats are funny! My old cat would gently pat m face to wake me up. Usually gizmo will walk on me, lick my face..then my nostrils. I only caught marshall trying to wake me once and I woke up to hum face rubbing my elbow

Could you get up put the food out and then go back to bed? Thyey do sell time feeders....where you could set a time and the feeder will open up and let the cat at the foods
I didn't know about the time-feeder. Is there possibly one out there for wet food? Sounds expensive. :-( ???
 

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What is the matter with you? Get with the program!! :deal - Lydia is trying her best to whip you into shape and you are totally resisting! :lol:

On a serious note, there are two things you can do to stop this.
1.: Get up at zero dark thirty and cater to her every whim.
2.: stop letting her sleep with you - no access to the bedroom at all. LOTS of people do this with great results. On "those" mornings when the fun starts at 3AM, hubby will go downstairs and everyone follows. He will then double back and put up the baby gate halfway up the stairs then close the BR door and turn on a small fan that drowns out any noise they may make from downstairs.

There may be other more practical solutions for you and your home layout. This solution may not work for you, but it may spark some sort of practical solution you can think up for your circumstances.
:-( I'm not sure I'm strong enough to completely restrict the bedroom. I'm in there a lot, so I don't mind her being in there with me. That's where we mostly play and snuggle. And to be honest, I truly don't mind her sleeping in the bed, neither does my boyfriend. But when "the fun starts," we typically just escort her out and she doesn't seem to mind. I just want her to have the decency to LET ME SLEEP until I'm ready to wake up. LOL!
 

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I think it is time to revisit this oldie but goodie.

Cat Man Do - Simon's Cat - YouTube

I put out the largest meal of the day (wet food) for Max right before I go to bed. If I don't I go through the same thing. Weekends sometimes I want to sleep late and the food wears off and Max will wake me earlier than I would like. When he makes a nuisance of himself I get right up and pick him up and put him in a room on the other side of the house and shut the door. This usually has a lasting affect on him for a week or two. He really does 't want to be shut out.

Don't worry about the wet food (which is much better for your cat than dry) sitting out all night. It will probably get eaten within a few hours but if it doesn't, it won't hurt your cat.
Ha ha! So funny! That's exactly how I feel in the morning. LOL!
 

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The timer activated feeders start at about fifty bucks each and there is actually one that has a recess in it to hold ice to keep the food fresh and cold for hours. Rather than use one of these devices, it is just much easier to feed the cat in the evenings in my opinion.

I have a 17 y/o cat with hyperthyroid disease that wakes me up every two hours to give her food. She jumps up on the bed, stands by my ear and meows and if I don't here her, she then sticks her paw into my open, snoring mouth; which I of course notice right away! Since I am retired, I don't have to worry about getting enough sleep for work, so I let her do what ever she needs to wake me so I can keep her alive for another day, week or month. I know I will lose her very, very soon, and I can wait to sleep until then.

One thing people do not think about is that in the wild cats eat every smidge of the mice, birds, lizards, etc that they catch and the digestion of different parts of their prey, soft tissue, bones and skin, hair, etc take different amounts of time. So when we feed them cooked, pate like foods, their digestive cycles are like lightening, making their way through the food. It is one reason I feed both canned and dry, 50 percent each type; the dry does take longer to process and keeps them fuller longer, but it is missing so much in the way of fat soluable vitamins and nutrients, and, of course, essential water. My cats can always get to dry food in my home, but wet food is put out at noon as a small meal, and at bedtime as a large meal. All my other cats let me sleep through the night (unless they hear me feed Apache, my 17 y/o, then they come running).

I am really going to miss Apache when she dies; she was the last cat my Dad gave me: and my Dad hated cats and only liked Apache because he had saved her life accidently and the rescued kitten actually kissed him in gratitude after her rescue! So losing Apache will also mean losing my last physical link to my Dad as well. It just goes to underline the fact that we all become orphans before own own death; if we are lucky. We all complain about growing old and getting weaker and losing our prime, but we should all welcome old age with open arms and be glad for it; think about all those people who have died young and will never grow old and experience old age. Sometimes I think the Goddess only picks those spirits she knows are strong enough to go through old age to allow them to have the experience!
 
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