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When a friend of mine passed over she left 2 kitty kats behind. Well, without a second thought, I knew they needed a new home...mine. BB King is a burmiess :?: spelling? and Kitty KItty is a tabby. I changed his name to Egypt, something about calling kitty kitty I don't like. I already had Bugs, who was 13 and an indoor cat so I chose to keep the others as outside cats. I tried to allow them to be insiders, but Egypt was so wild and freaked out he was all over the place tearing up curtains and breaking lamps and all kinds of other stuff. He never was into being in a house,but I didn't know how much he hated it. Also, I never could get close to him, he just was a freaky cat. It wasn't until after about 3 months that I felt something barely rub up against my back while I sat on the front porch steps. Well, we are good buddies now, but I am the only human in the world he allows inside his. But that's not my problem...

It's the other one!! That cat won't leave me alone!! I feel bad because I'm beginning to not like him. He will NOT take NO for an answer. He is always, always, always, ALWAYS around and I can't enjoy some alone time in my favorite peaceful place outside. And that's a rare thing to have in my neighborhood, peace that is. I'm at the stage of yelling and pushing him away, and the more I do, the faster he comes back. I would like to be able to find a little old lady for him to attach himself to, but egypt and him are as close as two cats could ever be. And Egypt has rejection issues, and is almost impossible to get in a cage for a vet trip.

Any suggestions? I'm tired of not being able to 'sit and be still' the one place that is mine!


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Hehe just like a Burmese! They generally tend to constantly crave attention. If he really annoys you could you just go in a room and close the door? If that doesn't work i'm sure you could find a good home for him, he sounds like a very affectionate cat! You could try contacting your local humane society and ask them if they would post him on petfinder.
 

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I know what you mean. Baxter is about as clingy as a cat can get. He's a sweetheart but he always runs for my lap any time I sit down for any reason. He could be anywhere in the house and when he hears the sound of the recliner he makes a beeline for me. And then he continually gets up and walks on me, rubs on me, changes positions when I'm trying to relax and watch TV. Don't get me wrong, he's a great cat but poor Barnaby hasn't laid on my lap since I got Baxter. I've even tried closing Baxter in a room so Barnaby could have some time with me but he's gotten so used to not being on my lap that he doesn't even come to me. He used to lay on my lap and purr, sometimes sleep, every night. I'm wondering how I can get him on my lap again.
 

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Thanks, Payge, that's a great idea. I hope little Egypt could handle life without BB. He is a very strange cat, never known one anything like him. I wonder if depression from the dissappearance of a kitty kat friend to another kitty could be devestatingly unhealthy in any way? I wish I had a picture, but those two cats lay face to face together, forming into the shape of a heart. It's so sweet, they do that all the time.
 

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I'd take him if you were close... :D Of course... I would take any cat... if they were close... 8O He sounds like such a sweetie! I love clingy animals - and so do lots of other people - I'm sure he'll find a good home if you looked for one. ^_^
 

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Burmies are pushy cuddle babies. But he may also be dealing with grief.
He has lost his master. When my husband died 4 years ago, his cat grieved for almost a year. He finally gave up. He was just never happy without Henry. He had always only tolerated me.
 

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I don't know see why you are rejecting him, you should be proud he puts you ahead of anything else. I bet he feels heartbroken and unwanted, maybe he needs some good TLC.
 

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I don't reject him until I've had enough of his not stitting still, pushing up all over up under and around me, yelling at me cause I stop petting after 10 minutes or more, won't let me read write or relax. Simply put, he won't get out of my space when I want to be left alone! I certainly do it for them when they feel bothered.

And I do think it is part of a grieving process, cause he was alot worse when I first brought him and his friend home. But it has been almost a year now, and if he's not getting from me what he needs, maybe someone else can.
 

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Some cats are rather clingy, too bad you don't have the temperament for it. It was very kind of you to take the orphans in after your friend passed. I don't really have suggestions for you, but wanted to share my experiences. Your cat's probably going to stay clingy, so you'll have to think about what will make both of you happy.

My furrkids are all kinda clingy but Ginza is extra clingy. He follows me faithfully around the house 24/7, he needs to be in whichever room I'm in, we have scheduled cuddle times that can last up to an hour. He'll hurl himself at any closed door I'm behind, and he'll wail until he sees me. He'll spoon sleep with me, or shove my arm really hard at 4am to sleep under the covers over me or hubby. And we LOVE him to pieces.

You mentioned the more you shove him off, the faster he comes back. My Ginza needs constant reassurance from us, so whenever we see him we'll kiss him and tell him we love him, which seems to make him happy. Even when I'm in the middle of something and he taps me, I'll make smoochy sounds and tell him I love him, then he'll just sit still and watch me.

He's also the most intelligent and sensitive of my little brood. He understands "not now" when I want to be left alone to read my paper and drink tea. He'll sit still and wait for me to finish and give him a kissie.

If that sounds like yours, and you don't think you can take it, you've got some hard decisions to make. Good luck.
 

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I have found a home for both Egypt and BBKing, but they will remain with me untill May. Thoughtful for you to have been wondering about them, Superkitties. I had not read your post, cause my computer was taken and I'm glad you asked. I loved what you shared about all the kissies and cuddles you give your babies.
I think part of why BB started getting on my nerves is because he would upset my BugsyBoy so badly that it interfeared with every little thing Bugs enjoyed with me. I started to resent that and was more concerned about Bugs' needs being met first. Still, I have always felt a little guilty and bad for having that kind of 'conditional' love by pushing Beebs away so much.
Even Egypt, who was exstremly shy, angry, lost, unstrusting, and hard to get to know, would fall victim to 'BB's the Boss' take over everything attitude. It was months, 4 or 5, before Egypt rubbed up against my back one day while I sat on the front step. Another couple months before he let me pet him one time. Probably a whole year had gone by before he'd play cat games with me, and that could never be more than 30 or 40 seconds before BB would put a stop to all but him playing.
I would like to keep Egypt but It would be to much unhappiness for both of them should they be seperated. My friend is having her house remodled and when it is complete they will be moving in with her. Both cats already know my friend and her house is right around the corner on the same block as me!!
I definately feel alot better knowing there is another place for them to live, even if it means I'll have lots of Kat company.
 

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Keep us updated on how the transition of a new home goes.
I hope your friend is prepared for the attention and patience
she will need for these kitties. I feel bad cuz they lost their
owner so maybe this will be their last stop for a final home
to meet their needs. Plus you can keep an eye on them.

my friend lives in Lajolla. there are coyotes there. I hope
your cats are safe outside!?
 

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The friend that has agreed to provide a home for Egypt and BBee has actually known these two cats alot longer than I have. She had been friends with the kitty's mom long before I met her. She had two big Bulldogs at the time when the cats mom died and was afraid they would not find a home and end up at the pound.
I had been out of town for almost 2 weeks and did not even know all of this was going on. I did not have to even think about it, and in fact, offered emediately to take the two feline friends when I'd heard what had happened. They had been living in an empty house, with no electricity, only someone who came to feed and water once a day. Like a natural instinct, I took them right in.
I have provided them with a good home, vet care, love and attention on a daily basis. It's just my commitment and devotion runs so deep with Bugs that I feel his needs come first and formost. Especially, after the life altering terrifing event he recently went through.
I am very happy, in fact proud of myself for stepping up to the plate to make sure these cats weren't made to suffer any longer. Or worse. Just because I'm not particulary fond of being pushy pussed to pieces does not mean I don't care about the wellbeing of BBKing.
I'm very happy to have been their temporary provider over the past couple years and definately will enjoy when the come to visit me. As I'm sure they will :)
 

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I live in neighborhood inside the city. Coyotes live about 3 miles from me. Big stray dogs are more of a problem around my area. But my yard is completely fenced and even if a dog could get in there is many many high places in the yard the cats can go. They actually have a nice inclosed small two room, well built (and insulated) place that I store a few thing in to hang out in. They go in and out through a window that I leave open just for them.

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