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Well, as always, life changes.

I have been living with my sister for the past 6 to 9 months. She had a cat, Boo, and when I moved in, I got Drizzle. The two are now best buds, of course. Well, it looks as if I may be moving home now, back with my Mom. The only problem and/or question is: the kittens.

First off, seperating them from one another is not an option, in either of our opinions. They love each other.

Now here's the issue: Who do they go with?

Here's the situation:

My sister works a normal (8 to 4) job. She also has a new boyfriend of sorts, and is always saying she wants to do more, go out more, make new friends, et cetera. Not to mention she's doing college courses once a week. Plus the various weekly appointment here or there. The end result is, she's usually only home from 4:30 to 10-11 PM while awake, and at least two nights out of the five of the work week, not home out for 2 hours of that. She also lives in a very populated neighborhood and has had trouble with local hoodlums and vandalism.

Me, Myself, and I are at home nearly 24/7. I am on disability. I don't have a social life. I go out perhaps once, maybe twice a week, for 2-4 hours. Otherwise, I am home. Drizzle has lived his life with this - me always there. Boo, half her life with this. Me always around. I live in a very isolated neighborhood, quiet and safe.

I've been researching Moving Cats, and understand if done right it can be done without any real stress.

Also, my sister would of course visit both kittens at a whim, whenever and for however long she wished.

Do you think they should remain here, in this house, with her. Or, move to my house, with me?

Both my sister and my Mom are... having difficulty with the idea of the cats moving with me. My mom's not an animal person, but I know could become one, and has warmed up to these two kittens a lot. My sister of course, reasonably, is torn over "loosing" the kittens. Some other scenarios have been suggested, but they all involve the kittens staying in this house in a, all things considered, bad neighborhood. Further more they all involve me 1. learning to drive, 2. getting a car, 3. getting insurance, and 4. driving back and forth, daily, and spending time in someone elses house where no one my belongings et cetera are.

I'm very frustrated. I'm trying to think of the kittens best interest. They have known and become dependant on me being with them. I have grown likewise dependant on being with them. I can be with them as much or as little as they want. When they want to be by themselves, they go be by themselves. I'm "there" in the house in case they want me, or get hurt, et cetera. To have them stay here, alone, all day, when they could be with me, together, all day, seems utterly stupid. Moving cats, according to all I've read, can be done without much if any stress if done right.

*SIGH*

My sister says she "wants to live her life" - IE, have fun, go places with people, date, et cetera. I, due to circumstances, don't have any such life. She's already away from them for 1/3rd of the day, asleep another 1/3rd, and as she gets more of "a life", she'll be away another possible 1/3rd. I'm at home, day in, day out, 24/7/365. I can best care for these Kittens. Best provide for them in safety, attention, et cetera.

I know they'll both come to thier senses. I just needed to vent, and need to hear some people agree with common sense here.

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This is a hard decision for your sister and you to make. You both sound like you love these babies very much. It's great that neither you or your sister want to seperate them. You have the kitties best interests at heart therefore I think you should take them. What about your mother though? Will she be able to accept them without complaining about every little thing they do? That can be very stressful and will take away from the joy you get from your babies. I wish you much luck and don't forget to post to let us know what you finally decided and how things are going for you.
 

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Well, I've spoken with my mother this morning. She now agrees that it's best for the kittens, as well as me - 3 out of 4 people/cats involved - to be with me. My sister is utterly resistant to the thought of giving them up. Despite the fact she knows and admits it's best for them. Despite the fact everyone else agrees. :x
 

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I know from your previous posts that you love your cats very much. My mom is also on disability, she has a cat that she loves like you love your cats. If she was to become seperated from her cat she would become very depresed! I think your situation may be simalar with my moms.
Sometimes our animals take the place of things in our lives we may be lacking, for some its children,or a husband, or a social life. I think it is wonderful that an animal can love us so much and we can love them so much that they can fill a void in a life. As well, if we are to lose these pets that mean so much it can cause a larger and harder to fill void.
I hope your sister relizes that you need these cats to be part of your life. I also hope your mom will let the cats come to her house. I also think you can very safely move your cats, with out to much stress. I have recently moved my cats and they did fairly well at first, and completely adjusted within a couple days.
Will you be able to continue to post here after you move? I hope all goes well for you! keep us informed ok. :)
 

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Although your sister loves the cats, it sounds as if she has a very busy life and the cats would be happier with you. She would only be spending a small amount of time at home whereas you would be home most of the time and that's alot more time you would be missing your cats if she were to keep them. And of course she is always welcome (and easily able) to visit them.

If you keep them it's always good to know that if for some reason it doesn't work out with your mom, they have another home to go to.

Yes, please let us know how this works out.
 

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It is great to hear that your mother agrees for the babies to come live at her house - just in case. You and your sister will have to come to an agreement that what is best for your kittens should be done.
 

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I'll always be here, posting here, and on-line as such. Don't have much else to do! :p

As for the kittens and who they go with, it's nice to see I'm not being selfish in my desire for them to be with me. That it truly is, as I suspected, the best thing for them. The only real arguement my sister has is that moving them would be traumatic, but Lilly (I believe?) agrees that it isn't a traumatic thing at all and can be done easily and simply.

There is a new solution - an old one, really - presenting itself. Originally the plan had been for my sister to sell this house, as she's not really happy with it, and we'd build on to our family home. An "in-law" apartment is what they're most often called. She was all for the idea, we'd even gotten the blueprints done, talked with builders, but then suddenly lately she was not keen on that idea. Now though, she's gone back to being for the idea of moving on. The problem now is that, both Mom and I are unsure if she's reliable enough since she keeps flip-flopping. IE: What if 3 months later she decides she doesn't like it and moves? My Mom would be stuck with an enormous loan to pay off.

It is (building on) the best option - for everyone. We just have to figure if my sister wants it or is just settling. I hope it works out as such, as I know she, too, greatly loves these little ones.

Thanks, everyone. It's good to see not only that I'm not off my rocker with my belief that, under the above circumstances, they'd be best off with me, but also that everyone is so nice and supporting. Rest assured I'm not going anywhere, not even for a day. Hehe. :lol:
 
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