My fiancee and I adopted 2 kitties 1 month ago - a mother and daughter. Autumn is totally fine, loves to play and cuddle. Penny is the mother (now 16 months) and still very scared.
When we first brought her home she spent a few days under a spare bed and wouldn't come out. I guess there has been a little progress, because at night she sneaks out of the room to go downstairs and play with Autumn. In the morning, I will find her in the living room and the second I come down she runs. She's even worse with my fiancee, as soon as she hears him she runs.
The only time I can pet her is if she is eating. We have to trick her out of the room just to get her to run downstairs towards her food, or else she won't come down. She loves food and it's the only time I can sneak a pet in. She won't let my fiancee do that.
I suspect she was abused before she and Autumn were abandoned. My fiancee is upset because she seems more scared of him. I know that she needs lots of time, but I am wondering if she will ever come out of this?
People have told us to just ignore her, but I hate that. I don't think she wants to be completely ignored and I hate the thought of ignoring her. I just can't do that. I want her to know she is loved. I also hate having to scare her out of the spare room so she will come down to eat, but if she doesn't, Autumn eats all her food.
Do you think she will come out of this soon, or ever? :sad
When we first brought her home she spent a few days under a spare bed and wouldn't come out. I guess there has been a little progress, because at night she sneaks out of the room to go downstairs and play with Autumn. In the morning, I will find her in the living room and the second I come down she runs. She's even worse with my fiancee, as soon as she hears him she runs.
The only time I can pet her is if she is eating. We have to trick her out of the room just to get her to run downstairs towards her food, or else she won't come down. She loves food and it's the only time I can sneak a pet in. She won't let my fiancee do that.
I suspect she was abused before she and Autumn were abandoned. My fiancee is upset because she seems more scared of him. I know that she needs lots of time, but I am wondering if she will ever come out of this?
People have told us to just ignore her, but I hate that. I don't think she wants to be completely ignored and I hate the thought of ignoring her. I just can't do that. I want her to know she is loved. I also hate having to scare her out of the spare room so she will come down to eat, but if she doesn't, Autumn eats all her food.
Do you think she will come out of this soon, or ever? :sad