hi all, i am new to these forums. i live on the south coast of the UK. i did just make a post, but for some reason it did not like it, and when i hit the 'back' button the post had disappeared. that will teach me to save it, so i will keep this short.
i have recently met a lovely lady from thailand, online, with 2 children. I hope to apply for a settlement visa for them to come to the uk this year.
i live at home alone, with 2 dogs and a cat, who is wild. my animals get on very well with each other. my cat is scared of humans apart from me. if someone comes to the house she runs and hides. if she is outside and wants to come in, and sees an unfamiliar face, she will run away for at least a few hours. she is even very cautious of my mum. i am the only person she likes. my cat is 14.
i am worried that when my wife to be, and her two children come to england my cat will be totally distressed. my cats life will be a complete misery. plus we might even have a baby on the way.
we will have to move to my mums house, as my house is too small, and my mum will move into sheltered accomodation. my mums house only has a courtyard garden, and is in the centre of town, unlike my house which has a lovely, and large garden
my mum told me my cat is getting old, and is time to 'put her down' i wont do this, and i do not think a vet would do it either.
so what do i do? do i try and find a new home for my aging cat ( no idea how ). or what can i do? she would be completely terrified if 3+ new people started living with us. the children are very noisey ( as are a lot of children of course ). and there is no chance she would ever get use to them. as i said, she is very cautious of my mum, and that is after 14 years. if i ever let her out, she might never come back. and it would be unfair to keep her locked in a room for the rest of her life
any suggestions pls