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I've come across a London 'socialising' website which organises events in London so people can get to meet people etc.

http://london.citysocialising.com/

I've decided to go to an 'event' tomorrow night. Its a 'meet new members' thing in a bar where they tell you all about the 'club' so to speak and you get to 'mingle' with everyone there.

I'm not into the 'drinking scene' at all, and i think there are other kind of events later but anyway.

To be honest, I'm feeling a little 'flat' at the moment and therefore not really into socialising. However, seeing as the reason I'm feeling flat is largely due to feeling isolated it would be a shame not to try it, I guess.

I tend to become a bit of a wallflower when it comes to things like this so any tips much appreciated.
 

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Fellow wallflower here, too! I have to go to a small event in a couple weeks and I'm already dreading it. And it's for cat people!

Asking people about themselves gets the ball rolling. Without even mentioning that you have cats, ask them if they have any pets. As we all know, people love talking about their pets. And hobbies. Or mention you have friends coming into town and ask for a good restaurant recommendation for a certain type of food. I've found that people are passionate about their "favorite" anything, even restaurants.

Or mention that you were thinking of taking a small trip, for four days, and ask where in the world they would spend them if they could.
 

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Wallflower too! :D But just remember, that although you may feel like a wallflower, there are always others in the same boat as you. Just have fun. Marie shared some good starter conversation tips, and really, all it takes is sometimes just a couple words to start a conversation.

Good luck, and have fun, Allie! :D
 

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Fellow wallflower, I admit, although I can fake it pretty well.

This event sounds great because you're going to be with other people who are new. Everyone has the same agenda, and everyone will feel at least slightly awkward about it. Good choice -- I think it has promise!
 

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I'm strange; I had been a wall-flower all my life until I got married. My husband gave me the confidence to be me, so I am. I approach and talk to people everywhere I go. (not that I get to get out much, that must be why I talk to whomever/whenever I can) People LOVE to talk about themselves. If I am feeling reluctant to participate I will ask people about themselves and LISTEN. Sometimes, it is enough to spark my interest and I'll join in more fully, but by getting someone else to speak about themselves, makes it easier to share yourself. I will not discuss politics or religon.

Dress nice, but be COMFORTABLE. If you don't normally wear a skin-tight dress and heels...DON'T wear them! If you don't feel comfortable in your clothes, you will project that and others will pick up on it. Fitted slacks or a skirt, nice blouse, jumper or fitted jacket. This is a difficult concept, but don't wear baggy or ill-fitting clothes, wear clothes that fit and flatter your body shape. Wearing poor-fitting clothing and/or trying to hide in your clothing projects a certain image, sort of a stay-away signal to other people. You want to be approachable. Wear some light jewelry (pick 1 or 2 items: small earings, necklace, maybe a bracelet) and comfortable footwear would be a must. Perhaps a light scent, but nothing overpowering.

Wash/style your hair. Try some makeup. Very LIGHT makeup. I use a moisturizer and then a lightly brushed on mineral powder. Light eyeliner and some shadow. Mascara on the upper lashes only, if I put it on the lower ones I tend to get smudges and look like I have black eyes. Lip Gloss and I'm done. As long as I don't rub my face it does not require any touchups or adjustments in the ladies' room and will last for hours.
Man. I wish I lived over there. I'd love to come over and do an afternoon of 'dress up' and just playing with hair styles and makeup with you. Sometimes, it takes someone outside of yourself to be able to show yourself something different. I did this with a girlfriend here when I did a photo shoot with her and her horse. I came out the day before and we found a makeup look that suited her and her photos looked outstanding! ...they looked good because she was comfortable with the minimal amount of makeup we used. It enhanced but didn't overpower.

Have fun!
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Thanks guys, I really appreciate your support. More than you know.

I went out and brought a 'going out' outfit in the post Christmas sales. Its a pretty blouse and a pair of glossy black trousers. I hate dresses and skirts :lol:

I tend not to wear makeup ... sigh ... I'd love someone to take me on hand and show me what to wear, how to apply make up etc. Heidi, come on over ;)

Perhaps I should sign up to one of those 'make over' shows ;)

In the meantime, its 2.30am and I am only now going to bed. That will teach me to be distracted by a discussion on guns when making up homeless kitty pages ....
 
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