[JJ CatMan]

We just got a new brown burmese (Millie) from a breeder, and she is 14 weeks old now. We have a 4 year old lilac burmese (Zoe) who was very affectionate towards our old 16 year old cat (Miki), but then Miki died 2 weeks ago . Zoe has never been very affectionate towards us, she has never sat on our laps, she is very territorial and she spends most of her day outside. When we got our Millie, Zoe became very aggressive and attacks Millie whenever they come close. Whenever they are in the same room, they stare at each other. Millie wants to become friends, and doesn't attack Zoe, but she is now too scared to get close to Zoe. Zoe will now not let us pick her up, and when we do, she growls and meows, then tries to scratch us. When we get close to her, she tries to run away. Zoe has been put on Clomicalm, but it does not seem to be helping. Now we cant leave them both in the same room together, Zoe might hurt Millie. We tried putting Millie in a cage and letting Zoe wander around without her, and seeing her in the cage, but this did not seem to help. There is a lot of hissing and growling. Millie is the cutest cat we have ever had, and is very affectionate. We have stopped letting Zoe outside, and now she just paces up and down, trying to go outside.

Could anyone please help to get Zoe to make friends with Millie.

 

[tio]

As for me, I think all you (you and your cats) need is time. It's a normal situation, my Xam Nho used to attack the new kitten in some first days. Millie is 14 weeks old, so she is big enough to defend herself. I think you should accept the fact that the older cat feels jealous of the new kitten. Let them to do everything in cat's procedure. :wink: If after about 2 weeks, the case is still bad, it's not too late to separate them.

 

[kitkat]

Have you tried to play with them together or feed them both treats at the same time.. they need to have positive experiences when in the same room together. Most of the time at first they will probably hate each other but after awhile they learn to at least tolerate each other if not be great friends. You can't expect them to be buddy buddy but try to give the older one a bit more attention so she knows that she is still loved and the younger kitty is not trying to take over. Hope it works out!