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Today, July 5, my beloved fuzzbuddy "RJ" was escorted to the Rainbow Bridge where he's now fat and happy, and is meeting his cousins Dupree and Vanilla.

RJ was 19 and had a great life. A rescue cat I adopted from the Humane Society, he was the gentlest and sweetest pal you could ask for. But intestinal cancer and renal failure took him down and he was unable to fight the good fight. So we took him to the vet this morning and now he's at the RB.

 

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I am so so sorry for the loss of RJ. What a beautiful boy...

Eternal petpets RJ. I am one who believes you are feeling much better now. Enjoy the bridge, and stay close to your "katdad"....He misses you...
 

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I am so sorry to hear about RJ. I know how much you loved him. You both were so lucky to have each other. Hang in there.
 

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I am so sorry for your loss; I know the decision is one of the hardest to make. RJ is at the Bridge on a nice warm spot watching you...and I am sure his spirit will sneak back to visit you and thank you for all your love and care these years.
 

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Katdad,
I'm so sorry about RJ...
You were both so Blessed to have found each other, and had the time together, you did...
19 years is good long respectable life to have with a loving owner and a forever home.
I know your heart aches...
RJ knows how much he meant to you, and how much he was loved...
Loved so much,
That he was set Free with Dignity, to Fly to the Bridge...
The final, ultimate gift of Love, that we can give...
Hugs and Prayers,
Sharon 1404589900402.jpg
 

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Thanks for all the kind words. I've had other pets go to RB of course, but RJ was with me during some hard times and he was my buddy. Right now I'm grief stricken but later the good wishes here will be a comfort.

I found RJ at a Humane Soc. cat & dog adoption display at PetCo. I went there to buy some smoked pig ears for doggy friends, and strolled over, took one look, and it was love at first sight! When I went to pick him up, my friend Marie took me, and as I was getting RJ from the cage he was nervous and scared, nibbling at me. Marie said "Don't worry, little fella. You don't know it yet but this is the luckiest day of your life!" Very sweet and very true.
 

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So, so sorry about your furbaby - what a gentle soul and how peaceful he looks sleeping there. That is the gift you gave him - the gift of peace and release from all his infirmities, and it's the hardest gift to give. How is Bobby doing with this? Does he appear to be grieving his buddy as well?
 

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Bobby is acting a bit agitated but he's not yet figured out that Uncle RJ is missing. Naturally Bobby now has to assume full house cat responsibilities, a tough job. Just a while ago I picked him up, rubbed his little head, then fed him dinner and gave him some fresh water.
 

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A question to those who lost a beloved cat about strange feelings that you get soon afterward...

All afternoon I had this odd urging that popped into my head briefly, to get in my car and drive to the vet, and "demand" that RJ be "fixed up" and given back to me, that I'd changed my mind.

Something like this ever happen to others? Or other odd ideas? Such as -- we're getting a bit of a rainstorm this afternoon, and I "worry" that RJ is out in it and lost, getting wet.
 

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(I have lost 2 beloved kitties, 10 weeks apart)

Though I personally have not experienced what you are describing, what you are describing is actually very normal and common, whether the loss is a furry family member or a human one.

Be kind to yourself. Your mind is trying to catch up to the "new" reality.

It's been 2 years since I had to say goodbye to my 2 girls, and to this day, I still want a do-over.
 

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Agreed. Right now my girlfriend is terse with me because I made the decision to have RJ euthanized today -- she would have preferred to continue to nurse him and clean him.

Needless to say, the decision was a hard one. But I knew that he'd die within a week or two anyway, in great pain. His illness wasn't reversible and it was terminal. Heck, I want the same for myself should it ever come to that (shudder).

I'm not intensely religious but I am a "believer" and I've always thought that for those beloved pets, a small portion of our souls is "transferred" to the animal, giving it entrance to heaven. Years after, reading C.S. Lewis' "The Problem of Pain" I saw that he believed much the same thing. So I was in good company.

And I do think that, in a way, the Rainbow Bridge is real. At least, the continued existence of our pets' spirits is not just a fable.
 

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The last gift we can give our beloved furkids is to sacrifice our hearts and take in the pain so they do not have to suffer any longer.

Not sure what you think about NDE (near death experiences) but a common experience for people who have them is that they see beloved pets who have gone before then. Not only that, but children who have NDE often describe a certain animal that they met that turns out to be a pet that they personally never knew, but their parents or other adults did know in their youth, etc.

I too dont understand how love, which I think is eternal, is ever extinquished. Doesnt sound logical to me...

Hugs and be kind to yourself. You gave him a wonderful gift by allowing him to be freed of his illness...
 

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I am so very sorry katdad. He had a long and wonderful life with you, and you showed him your love with your courageous decision to spare him pain. I'm sure your girlfriend knows it was the right decision, but the loss is so immediate and so great that it will take her some time. I don't remember experiencing what you described, although I did find myself talking to my kitty, or holding silent conversations with her, for a while after she passed. It's so hard to accept that your furry baby isn't with you (physically, anyway), but he is in spirit. Lots of warm wishes to you and your girlfriend.
 

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Thanks to all, especially marie & sprite... heart is broken now, will take a long time to heal.
 

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Thanks to all, especially marie & sprite... heart is broken now, will take a long time to heal.
We know, katdad. We all know what that is like. They take a bit of our heart with them, so we are never exactly the same.

The heaviness will lift eventually, even though we always (or at least I do) miss them.

Be kind to yourself.
 

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Katas, I also believe we will see our pets that have gone on before us after we ourselves die. Hang in there, you will see RJ again.
 

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Katdad,
I believe that those people and pets we have held dear in life, will be greeting us, when it's our turn, to leave this earthly body...
After something I witnessed, when my Dad died, from cancer...I know he saw my Mom, and she had come to lead him over...
Hugs and Prayers,
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Quoting Hamlet (off the top of my head, not looking it up...)

"How weary, stale, flat, and unprofitable seem to me all the uses of this world,
'Tis an unweeded garden that goes to seed..."

I'm in a pretty bad state of mind right now, folks.
 
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