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Is a "come as you are" party appropriate for a sweet sixteen?


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Hey there everyone.
I am hosting a sweet 16 party for my niece a week from this Saturday, and I was told that she would like to have a "come as you are party". Her mother thinks that it would be a fun party, but her dad doesn't like the idea at all. He's afraid that people might come inappropriately dressed, and that the other parents might not appreciate it.
What do you all think? I really would appreciate some thoughts on the subject. I don't have any kids myself, and I am not sure what to do. I don't want to have either parent upset, let alone the parents of the people that may show up at the party.
Thanks for your opinions.
 

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Considering it's still winter, I don't think there will be a lot of people showing off skin. But there are 4 ways to dress Casual, Semi Casual, dressy, and night club wear. If anything I'd ask people to show up semi casual that way they can still look great and not show up to the party with lots of skin showing and have baggy pants to their knees.
 

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Why not just make it "Come as You Are (but please be appropriate)"

You're the hostess...you can always send someone home to change if necessary.
 

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Whatever you do, Jo, I'd make sure both parents approve. If your niece can reach an agreement with her dad about the wording (appropriate, as DB suggested) then the theme would be fine. If not, there are other fun ideas. Dress like the 50's, for example etc. Tell them to rent a video of "Happy Days." :) We did this at summer camp one year, and it was great fun. We played 50's--60's rock n' roll. You could have a twist contest, a "soda fountain," a "dress like the Fonz contest," etc.
 

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Culturally speaking, a Sweet Sixteen is a fancy party, different from a regular birthday party because of that. The Sweet Sixteens I know of and have seen pictures of had teens all decked out in near-prom regalia. Very high-class.
 

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How about an 1850's dress code? Anyone showing their ankles gets sent home? :lol:

Smart casual is normal for most parties. Do that.

Apart from reaching the age of consent, why do Americans celebrate 16th birthdays especially anyway?
 

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I think it is great that you are giving your neice a sweet 16 party. When I had one for my step-daughter we didn't specify, and the kids just came in comfy clothes. We actually had the party on New Year's Eve 1999 since her birthday was Dec. 22nd. Trust me, no one was going to come in a bikini in the cold weather.

If you wanted to make it a fancy dress party wouldn't you also have to have fancier foods and decorations? I say, let the kids have fun. I think the biggest thing that your niece will remember is that you hosted this party just for her.

Another thought- in this economy maybe families can't afford to buy their kids new outfits to go to a fancy party.
 

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Thanks for the input everyone. This is what my niece wants, and since it is her party, I think that she should be able to have it. She doesn't want to do the invitations thing, but rather, she wants to have someone call her friends at the last minute, and then just have them come over as they are. I can remember going to such a party as a teenager and we all had a fantastic time. It was fun to see people come to the party in all manners of dress. (Nothing untoward or provocative).
I know the kids that she associates with, and they are all upstanding teenagers. I know that it seems strange to think that there are teenagers out there that are not just into themselves, but, these kids all go to the same private christian school, and to the same church. The church community is the type where all of the kids are either married or engaged to be married by the time they are 21, and there haven't been any divorces. I am not worried as to how they will come dressed to the party, but my niece's father did not grow up within the community, and is therefore a little skeptical.
Keep the comments coming, as it could be a decision maker with her dad.
Thanks again.
 

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If you know this group of kids, Jacquie, and know them to be trustworthy young adults, I say let your niece have her "come as you are", last minute invite, party. :)
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My only concern would be that her friends have other plans...I would recommend that she invite them at least a few days beforehand. If she has facebook...lol

She doesn't necessarily need to do invitations, even just sending out a mass email would likely do it if she doesn't do the facebook thing. I just remember trying that exact thing for my 17th b-day...and it ended up being me and my 2 closest friends. Wasn't what I had in mind to say the least.

Tell her Happy b-day for us all anyways!!! :D
 
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