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I have a five-year-old Bombay that has been with me for just over a year. Miss Patty doesn't scratch the furniture, doesn't miss the litterbox, doesn't turn her nose up at dry food and doesn't run away from my friends. She's so low-maitenance, it's scary.

So this is my problem: This cat has bonded to me and loves me so much that I hate to leave her. I travel at least three times a year for extended periods, and everyone I've left her with has commented on how much she misses me. Don't get me wrong--she eats and sleeps just fine, but when I come back she gets very needy and I feel terrible. I swear, I've had dogs that are more indifferent--this cat is on my lap whenever I'm sitting at home, and she'll crawl under the covers at night just to be close. Even if I sleep on my side, the cat will settle down on top of my hip bone!

I would understand more if I had her from a kitten, or if she'd been abused, but I got her socially well adjusted, happy, and playful. Does anyone know how I can encourage her independence without seeming to punish her? I love her closeness, I just don't want her to miss me so much when I'm gone.

Thanx for any advice,
Anja

PS..it's just me and Miss Patty here at home...boyfriends and friends come and go, but her well-being is completely my responsibility.
 

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Anja,

How long are you away for???? Can you take her with you?

I think that your bond is wonderful and wouldn't try to change it at all. She thinks you are pretty darn special and she has strong feelings for you. You are one lucky mommy.
 

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You could start by encouraging your cat to sleep somewhere away from you at night just to get her used to the fact that your not always going to be there. Another thing that helps is giving your cat things to do while your gone to keep her busy such as giving her some kitty toys or climbing frames situated to give your kitty a good view of the outside world (make it so she can see a birdfeeder(kitty television 8) ) which can keep a cat busy for hours) Also, leaving the radio on also can help your kitty feel less alone. Another thing that you might consider which would help is getting her a buddy. And finally, if you think its necessary, you could also get medication to help reduce anxiety. Good Luck and I hope this helped! :D
 

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Anja,I have 2 cats that exhibit the same personalities. Yet, they are not alone because they have each other, (not to mention the others in my menagerie also). I suggest that perhaps you could get another furkid to keep your original pet company. She could learn not to be so dependent on your presence. BTW, who takes care of her when you are away? Do you have a pet sitter, or even know of a pet boarder, should you go away for more than 1 day?

.......wayne
 

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You don't have to worry, they love you and won't hold it against you. Go have fun and know they will be there for you when you get back....this is your payback for being a good keeper. Do not think of it as a bad thing. It's a wonderful thing!!!

...and I thought I was bad :roll:
 

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I have a Bombay. Your cat definitely seems to have the Bombay personality! They're social lap cats. I don't think you can change that.
 

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Thanx everyone for all your helpful advice...I'm considering very seriously all your good suggestions. Right now, I bought Miss Patty a panic mouse--you know, that toy which costs $25.00 and mimics a real human dangling a toy on a string? I couldn't believe I was going to such extremes, but when I set it up in the living room, she really went for it! So that does keep her pretty entertained when I'm at work...but if you buy one, get a battery charger as well!! Those AA's run out quick!

Yeah, Leopard....Bombays love play, laps and plenty of food! I didn't know my cat was one when I brought her back from the SPCA...she's listed as a black domestic short-hair. She's not pure-bred, but once I started reading about the Bombay personality, I knew that's what I had.
They're pretty hard to resist...and love that lush fur.
 

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Anja said:
They're pretty hard to resist...
Believe me, I know! I had two cats and had no intention of getting any more. Then one day I went to a cat show and saw an adorable 4 1/2 month old pet quality Bombay kitten, and she was for sale. I looked in her cage and said that she was cute. I was then asked "Would you like to hold her?" She was such a darling little lap cat. I couldn't resist her, and she ended up coming home with me.
 
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