Your cat is absolutely adorable.....love her acqua colored eyes!
Some cats just aren't lap cats. Generally speaking IME, males are suckier than females for lapsitting. Some will sit for brief periods, but then want to get down, especially longhairs like Main Coones or Persians, as they get too warm sitting on a lap. Interesting tho that she likes to be held as a baby---so just enjoy, not every cat likes to be held that way!
Yes, fishing pole type of toys that have feathers attached, like "Da Bird" are very popular with cats if you flick it around and drag it on the ground, and let your cat pounce on it and catch it. Always put the toy away in an unreachable spot as some cats will eat the feathers. Cats also like it if you drag a cord (window blind cord) around in a snakelike manner, especially if you make it go under furniture. Cats also like food puzzles, like the "Kong" and will roll it around to get treats out of it or bat at it with a paw. Some cats will retrieve a small stuffed mousie toy to bring back to be thrown again, or a paper/foil ball, or bat a ping pong ball around.
but yeah, like others said - enjoy your little girl for her own personality. my heart kitty didn't like being picked up OR sitting in laps, but we were incredibly bonded in other ways and I wouldn't have had it any other way. still miss just putting my arm around her and reading to her.